For a while I attended a homeopath and I was neither blown away nor dismissive of the treatment. I liked it. The questions leading to a remedy were varied and interesting and one has stuck with me. The homeopath asked if I struggled to wear things close to my neck like shirts with collars or polo-neck jumpers. Yes! I'd always struggled to be comfortable in either of those things. The restriction was choking. Strangely though, I love a scarf. I wear a scarf in winter or summer, I wear a scarf in the house and out the house, I wear a scarf if I've dressed up and want to dress it down just a little and I wear a scarf with my pyjamas. I launder and press my scarves because they are important to me. I don't understand why I struggle with a collar and yet seek out a scarf. Anyway, not important, my point...
A scarf brings a sense of safety to me. A weight, a cuddle, an envelopment. With autism, and even as a support for Asperger syndrome and the related anxiety, a sense of calm can be brought with weighted blankets, beanbags to hold the body closer than a chair, and even with a weighted vest. I get something similar from a scarf.
In this season, whether it is the winter darkness or the Christmas frivolities which hurt, do you have a go-to physical thing to help bring you that safety, solidity and sense of being held onto? Maybe we could all benefit from some swaddling clothes.
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