All of us at some point, get frustrated about repeating a behaviour which does not serve us well. Such behaviours (or relationships) can lead to disappointment, anger, hurt and even depression.

The fact is - changing habits is tough stuff.

We can even see this challenge from the many comments on the blogs, as we seek our own answers assisted by the many personal writings and growing supportive comments. Many of us feel what others are talking about; we've been down a similar path or sidewalk.

This story is the simplest, clearest metaphor I know, which so clearly demonstrates how tough change can be and also who has to take responsibility for change.

See what you think, or more importantly feel.

Porsha Nelson was given a 5x7 card and asked to write down the 5 Chapters of her life at the end of a seminar and she wrote this.

Chapter 1

I walk down the street

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk

I fall in

I am lost I am helpless

It isn't my fault

And it takes me forever to find m way out.

Chapter 2

I walk down the same street

There is deep hole in the sidewalk

I pretend I don't see it

I fall in again

I can't believe I am in the same place

But it isn't my fault

And it still takes me a long time to get out.

Chapter 3

I walk down the same street

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk

I see it there

I still fall in

It's a habit

My eyes are open

I know where I am

It is my fault

And I get out immediately

Chapter 4

I walk down the same street

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk

I walk around it.

Chapter 5

I walk down another street.

Now as a tool for self awareness - which chapter are you in right now? Have you taken responsibility for the sidewalk you are walking down? How can you move onto the next chapter?

Who can you discuss it with to help you see more clearly? (Your Moodscope buddy?)

If you are at chapter 5 - how can you avoid chapter 1 again and how can you help others to see the sidewalk they are on?

Les

A Moodscope member.