I lead a Creative Writing group, we meet twice a month. I nearly always send one or two reminders, but today I was busy, it was Bank Holiday Monday, and I  was about to send a reminder when I saw an email where one member had pre-empted the arrangements, and called on everyone to meet at a local café instead! .

Now I found this rude. I hadn’t indicated I wouldn’t be around on the second date, and they had not rung to ask for clarification. I was left wondering why it was assumed I was not at home. Yes, we have been away, but only for one of the May dates! I had made that clear.

It is all too easy to be taken for granted. I think it may be time for this other person to take over the running of the group. I’ve done many years in the role. And all of a sudden, my heart is no longer in it. Because of the snub? Maybe. But doesn’t a slight often precipitate change, even when not anticipated? It might even be for the best… I find it ironic that writing is about communicating with your readers, but on this occasion, there’s been a lack of communication. 

Now I appreciate that there are many ways to interpret people’s actions, so I’d be interested in reading your views on the subject.

Am I right to feel “stepped over”? How would you have responded in the same circumstance?

Sally

A Moodscope member