Would you like to know what your super-power is?
OK, lean in closer.
'Cos this will be our secret.
Your super-power is the choice to build bridges or build barriers - this is totally within your power! And the two look VERY different. Bridges find a way to connect 'between' and barriers find a way to block that inbetweeness.
I've just offered to mow my neighbour's lawn again (for free). I like mowing. I pointed this out. I said ('cos they're a time-poor motivated seller),
"Adding stripes to a beautifully kept lawn will add £5000 to the value of this property."
"I don't believe that."
And she didn't wrap that 'Empathy Blocker' in a smile or a joke. She was serious. What a joke (or something that sounds like 'joke'.) Result? I don't wanna mow her lawn for free no more!
Rapport or Crapport? That is the question!
Any idiot can break rapport (a state I call 'Crapport'!) It takes a master builder to build a bridge of empathy, of integrity, of authenticity, and of love.
I've decided to love my neighbour regardless (and, yes, I mowed the lawn anyway.)
Why? Because I'm supremely grateful. I got a blog out of it!
Next time you have an opportunity to disagree with someone or show 'n' tell them they're wrong - use your super-power instead. Choose to build a bridge of rapport instead of a barrier of crapport.
Love never fails.
A Moodscope member.