I’m working on creating a Secret Superhero who would suit you too. There’s been a villain throughout my life from the first time I could process the command, “No!”  With a first name of ‘Neil’, “No, Neil!” had a certain alliterative thunder to it!

The Villain developed over the years to become what I will call, “The Accuser.”  His remit is to catch me doing things wrong, getting things wrong, being stupid, being lazy, being useless – and, to give him his due, he’s very effective at his job and I’m often in agreement with his judgments.  Oh, he calls me other names too, like ‘fat’.

However, every good story needs a hero too – and even a superhero given the head start that The Accuser has had all these years.  Thus, enter “The Comforter.”

The Comforter’s role is to catch me getting things right.

The Comforter’s role is to catch me doing well.

The Comforter’s role is to celebrate every tiny victory, every microscopic step forward.

The Comforter’s role is to ascribe the best of intentions to every action I take.

The Comforter’s role is to support me in any way emotionally possible.

The Comforter’s role is to speak with kindness and compassion.

When the Accuser reminds me of my miserable past, or difficult present, the Comforter steps in and reminds me of my future potential.

When the Accuser reminds me of every time I have given up, the Comforter reminds me that I have shown such resilience that I’m still here and still, relatively, ‘together’.

When the Accuser reminds me of my failures, the Comforter – who is very wise – works alongside me to draw lessons from each experience.

And when the Accuser points out that I don’t have all the good that I would like in my life because I don’t deserve it, the Comforter points out so many important people and matters that I feel grateful for.

My Comforter has and uses the superpower of encouragement on a daily basis.

My Comforter has and uses the superpower of hope.

My Comforter has and uses the superpower of learning.

And my Comforter reminds me that John Lennon was right in spirit when he sang, “All you need is love.”  If my Comforter was to have a single focus, that’s it: love.

But why ‘secret’? My secret superhero currently seems a bit shy. She relishes an invitation, whereas the Accuser pushes in uninvited. So, for as long as necessary, I will be inviting the Comforter to share her insights, opinions, and thoughts whenever the Accuser pronounces his absolute judgments.

Do you think inviting the Comforter to support you could help, too?  I believe it would.

Lex

A Moodscope member