Social Media – Friend or foe?

3 Aug 2022

Some years ago, when Mum was still alive, my eldest sister and brother-in-law came to visit. My sister and I don't exactly get on and it's probably best if I say, we are better off not in the same room!

However, I digress. When she visited, she said 'You should get onto Facebook, and then you would be able to keep in touch with the children'.  I think this all came about because Mum had asked my sister, how the children (should say here, they are now both married with children) were getting on. My sister said' oh well they are o.k., but  Vivien should get on Facebook then she would hear from them regularly. 

First point I would make here – my sister can be very abrupt in her manner and everything comes with the word 'should'.  Very hard word. 

I duly signed up to Facebook, but rarely hear from my nephew and niece, but did manage to find some friends that I hadn't heard from for a long time. So pluses and minuses. I rarely post, and then only to people I know.


A friend rang me this week,  to tell me about a post on a Facebook group (Private) which concerned me. Someone had been asking about me – I think the wording was along the lines ' does she exist?'.  The person that was asking, was someone I knew many many years ago and I certainly didn't want to get in touch with them. As I didn't see the actual post because I don't belong to this group and have no wish to join, I got a bit worried. No Viv, be honest, you broke down!  I thought, why on earth would this person want to get in touch with me? Two people replied to his post – one said, yes I did still live where I did, and another one told him that my Mum had died and also told him the number of my house.  That is worrying, particularly as I live on my own. It made me think of a situation some months ago when a stranger turned up at my house and asked if (and gave my name) still lived at this address. Fortunately I had the presence of mind to say that I had moved away some years ago. It turned out this stranger (who gave his name and I knew him) was just looking for me but I sent him off with a flea in his ear. 


OK – I know I shouldn't have opened the door and now with hindsight, will never do this again. My closest friends call out to me when they come to visit. I am now in the process of deleting my Facebook account – very time consuming as I need to let my contacts know what is happening.   


Question?  Should I involve the Police? Part of me says Yes, Part of me says No. Because I have told my closest friends what has happened, I know that they are looking out for me.  


Any ideas Moodscopers?  Not sure what to do.


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