Hands up if you are always reading or buying books about motivation, success, willpower, goals, productivity, in the hope you will be inspired to action. Are you often reading more lists and posts about how you need to be better?
Do you sometimes feel, if you can read enough articles and enough Facebook quotes, suddenly your brain will put it into action?
Keep your hand up if you have not read any of those books you have bought or borrowed.
My hand is up, I keep buying books but not reading them, finding articles, but not reading them, all in hope I can be motivated, find my true path and follow my dreams. I feel under pressure that I have not achieved enough. These books rather than motivating me make me feel I am not focused enough.
I know people who have read the motivational books, and gone to the "You can be a success" workshops and made endless notes and lists about achieving their goals. Most of them do not get motivated or reach their goals.
What is happening?
Why is the reality different from what books promise us?
Is it maybe that we change when we want to change? Humans cannot be programmed like a robot. I feel it is difficult to create motivation when there isn't any. Sometimes it is not the time to change.
Maybe the book you want to write is not able to be started since you have not worked out the idea for your characters.
Sometimes we are sad and can't motivate ourselves till we have made sense of the sadness.
Some of us use so many tools to be more productive and make so many lists that every minute of our day is programmed.
What about instinct and natural impulse and gut feeling?
Many of us want to control timing in our lives.
For many, unhappiness stems from the belief that our lives should be different than they are. All the books and workshops tell us we should be successful, we can be successful, if only we are determined and become more motivated and organized.
Self-loathing and self-hatred comes from this idea that we need to be able to change our lives, that we must be richer, smarter, or happier.
There needs to be less guilt around the notion that you're not doing your best.
Is it time to stop comparing ourselves to people who are in very different life situations and stages.
Is it possible to start liking who we are now and not thinking about we will be happy when: when we get more motivated, when we achieve our goals, when we realize our dreams.
Imagine what may happen then.
We may motivate ourselves when we are ready and the timing is right.
Do you find motivational books and speakers helpful?
Do you feel pressured by motivational books?
Can you motivate yourself in your own time?
A Moodscope member.