When things do not work out as you had hoped, what do you feel, think and do?

Obviously, it depends on what the thing is that has not worked. It can be anything from a relationship that is not what you had thought it would be or making a meal for a dinner party and dropping it on the floor in front of guests. Both those things have happened to me and many things in between.

I rush into relationships then seem surprised when they have problems and I am not happy.

The dropping of the casserole was a spectacular accident. I blamed myself and felt I was the worst cook and host ever. It took me over 30 years to invite guests over again for a meal and even then, they offered to bring a meal and serve it!!

Some people say remember, challenges are not the end but an invitation to adjust, learn, and try again. Sometimes, but when things continually do not go as planned, I do not want to try again. What do you feel like when people tell you to try again, think differently, change your perspective etc?

Others say look for and focus on what is positive in your life. What’s working? What are you doing well? People who know my blogs realise I am not a great fan of unsolicited positivity.

I have read that people feel something not working is a challenge to try new things. I want to say can't we just acknowledge that something has not worked and reflect on that for a while without rushing to improve our lives instantly.

Moodscopers, I hope you can share with me things that did not work as planned and what helped and did not help you.

Leah 

A Moodscope member