Good morning? 

20 Aug 2022
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Lately, I noticed a comment from somebody who said they find mornings can be a grim time. Instantly I connected. Me too. Mood can be flatlined for me when I wake, and I often improve as the day goes on, sometimes dipping in the evening when I get tired. I wanted to share a couple of things I try to remember to do which might be helpful. 

 

1 I borrowed the travel kettle from my eldest daughter (bought for her Uni room) and put it in my bedroom. Some nights, I fill it and leave my mug beside it. If I make time, the early morning gentle wake up of a warm cuppa, before anything else, can help.
 

2 As I sip and persuade myself it will all be ok, I try to run over roughly what might happen in the day. Plan for the stuff I don’t want to face, so that when it happens, I can greet it with an eyebrow raise instead of being surprised. 

That’s it. Two little things that seem to slightly soften things for me in the grimmest part of my day. I hope you might try it too and/or leave your own tips so that we all can try to move the goal posts just a little.

Love from

The room above the garage

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Sally

Aug. 21, 2022, 5:46 a.m.

Well, isn’t that great! Two little things, two great ones though. I have sometimes thought of putting the travel kettle by the bed. Now I think I might! It’s all about having something positive to start the day with, isn’t it? In the past, I’ve deliberately “ overslept “ in order to delay facing the day…and I’m sure that isn’t rare…it’s therefore about planning how to make a start in a way that’s nice, and refreshing ( the hot cuppa!) . Well done, Room, for nailing it succinctly. Happy days ( as my son-in-law is fond of saying!)

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the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:31 a.m.

Hello Sally, ‘oversleeping’ sounds familiar. Lying filled with dread and imagining that somehow saying comatose would make it all ok. I’m slowly learning that it all happens anyway, we just add lateness to the list! Happy days is a great phrase, always sends me to thinking about The Fonz.

Teg

Aug. 21, 2022, 5:22 p.m.

Hi Sally Yes I agree. " having something positive to start the day". Mine is getting outside and walking. txx

Daisy

Aug. 21, 2022, 6:54 a.m.

Dear RATG When I wake in the night and can’t sleep- I go downstairs and make a cup of tea. It is peaceful there and calm - I might read a book or magazine not screen then after an hour go back- usually them I fall asleep. If early eg 5 am wakefulness then maybe I stay to seen dawn and watch the birds starting their day Thanks for the blog

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the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:34 a.m.

I was always an owl, late to bed, late to rise, but life forced me into facing early starts and therefore needing earlier bed times. Do you (like me) feel a bit protective or selfish of the early morning? If I’m out at dawn then I feel a bit disappointed to find somebody else out there! :-D

Teg

Aug. 21, 2022, 5:24 p.m.

Hi RATG I love meeting other early morning walkers(with or without dog). Just a "good morning" helps me reconnect with the world. Txx

Daisy

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:50 p.m.

Yes definitely dawn peace is my time not for people to invade

Paul

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:16 a.m.

Hi Ratg It may have been myself who mentioned mornings. Thank you for today’s blog and your tip sounds like a great tip. I sometimes get up and make a tea as I don’t like to disturb my wife too much. She often gets disturbed by my night time crazy dreams when I start shouting and jerking. Wake up with awful dread. Looking forward to any tips to make mornings a bit more manageable. I often feel like Jekyll and Hyde the person I am the first few hours of the day (not good company) To being fairly jovial later on. Paul

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the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:46 a.m.

Hello Paul, I found your comment on the original blog very valuable, so many ideas for other blogs came from that, so thank you. I noticed you deliberately left it until late because you didn’t want to offend. You’re take such care with your words that you could never offend and, in any case, your thoughts and feelings are valid and matter. As a sideline, what have you tried in terms of your sleep and nightmares, and particularly in respect of waking feeling awful? I realise I’m better if I shower straightaway (but I’m still grim and I also prefer a slow start, thawing out with a cuppa) but I’ve also read about blood sugar and how having something to eat straightaway can help. One article suggested keeping a banana or a couple of digestives/ginger biscuits by the bed to raise blood sugar from the outset. Nice idea, but it did nothing for me other than crumbs in the bed :-D

Paul

Aug. 21, 2022, 8:06 a.m.

Thank you for your kind comments. I have tried so many things ie CBT, hypnotherapy, light lamp many different beds. Lighter bedding heavier bedding, spray potions on the bed. Pillow with a speaker in it. Cutting out caffeine many herbal and Chinese potions. You will be sorry you asked lol I do find having something to eat and a shower definitely helps lift my mood in the morning . Finishing shower with cold water definitely helps. I think you may be on to something with sugar. I do not have sugar added but definitely suffer with low sugar symptoms, helped by eating. Thanks again for raising this topic. Paul

the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 9:02 a.m.

No, I’m glad I asked, I find it all quite fascinating and hearing others experiences valuable. Cold water showers are something I want to try and want to like but I’m a big avoider :-D

Teg

Aug. 21, 2022, 5:27 p.m.

Hi RATG That takes the biscuit! Txx

the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:41 p.m.

Agree!

Valerie

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:17 a.m.

Anyone else old enough to remember the Teasmade? It was an alarm combined with a hot water tank that filled the cup with boiling water for when you awoke.I never had one,but if Spock goes before me I will be looking for something like that. Mornings are just horrible first thing.Like you, I get better then go low again from around 4pm. ***

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Norman

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:34 a.m.

My parents had one: they never liked the taste of the "tea" it made...

the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:47 a.m.

I used to dream of how good it must be to have one. But I bet the adverts were misleading. You can still get them!

The Gardener

Aug. 21, 2022, 10:05 a.m.

Valerie, we had a Teasmade, thought it a marvellous invention. then it seemed to think it was in a different time zone, nothing we could do would stop it going off at 4 a.m.

Valerie

Aug. 21, 2022, 1:54 p.m.

You can still get them? That's Spock's replacement sorted!

Bearofliddlebrain

Aug. 21, 2022, 6:14 p.m.

Auntie Amazon sells a vintage-style one by Swan for about £55!! We got rid of ours cos it was so noisy and the tea didn’t taste that good!! A nuisance trying to get everything up and down the stairs….much easier to get up and have a proper cuppa - but I quite like Ratg’s travel kettle idea…. Bear xx

the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:45 p.m.

Am laughing at Auntie Amazon! I’m anti-Amazon :-D

Justkeepswimming

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:19 a.m.

Mornings are my worst too. My anxiety is high, my heart pounds and I don’t want to face the day - but I do. I carry on and as the morning passes I feel it lift. Getting out for a run or an exercise class helps but if I’m working I just have to get on with it. Some mornings are worse than others and I’m yet to work out why. Now I’ll think of you and that might help - I’m not alone

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the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:48 a.m.

I wish I understood why it can feel so awful. I’ve tried lots of different things to help but nothing changes it, only soothes it. And like you, it lifts slowly.

Teg

Aug. 21, 2022, 5:32 p.m.

Hi JKS/RATG I know the early morning anxiety. It is as if the mind and body have yet to synchronise. I suggest patience, it does eventually happen, and focussing on simple things. You are not alone! Txx

the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:44 p.m.

Teg you are our wise owl, and very grateful to you.

Norman

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:33 a.m.

Hi Ratty! My current sleepless go to is to put on the Radio: Radio 4. My bedroom faces south-west and I curently don't have curtains (or even curtain rails) so the sun often wakes me up. It is a gentle waking up with gradually increasing UV light (saves a fortune on UV lights). I listen to the radio (Farming Today anyone?) and the news, then I am able to switch it off and turn over.

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the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:51 a.m.

Hello Norman, that sounds like a healthy way to wake…relying on the natural light. I’d love somebody to do an experiment to see if mental health could be improved by allowing the body to be led more by nature and less by clocks and electric light.

The Gardener

Aug. 21, 2022, 10:09 a.m.

Norman, seldom listened to Farming Today, though I often knew people on it, think I was on once, can't remember what programmes now. We did not listen because we were already up and working to the dictates of the market.

Chris

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:48 a.m.

Really 'struck a chord' this blog. I tend to find hard though the thought might be it is often beneficial to make myself busy as soon as possible However I agree with the second ggestion that some sort of plan is beneficial also I also have mantras which I try and remind myself of.

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the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:53 a.m.

I’m similar Chris, if I have to be ‘up and at it’ it can push me through the worst time then I stop for a later breakfast and can feel ok. I’m comforted that quite a few of us have similar feelings.

Oli

Aug. 21, 2022, 8:23 a.m.

Mornings start the night before. For me at any rate. The surest way for me to stuff up my morning is to wake from poor quality sleep -- and that's definitely a night before thing with me. Some factors for good sleep I can control; others, I can't. When sleeping on my own it is easy to plan a routine for sleep and waking; sharing a bed is a compromise. And I generally leave it an hour or two before taking stock and doing the Moodscope test and other quick check-ins. I want the day to settle in a bit before I measure it -- a bit like checking the oil level on an engine. Thanks for the blog ratg -- I'm always up before my bed companion and she likes me bringing her tea. I like the rituals of tea and coffee making too.

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the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 9 a.m.

That’s a great thought…”mornings start the night before”!! Here’s to that, I’m going to be thinking differently now… Thank you!

Teg

Aug. 21, 2022, 9:03 a.m.

Hi RATG I really hope it is a good morning and your tea was just as you like it. "Early morning" is an interesting subject that I wrote about on 12 March (Getting out of Bed). We are all individuals and have our own routines. We need to reconnect with the world again every morning. I like to have a rough idea what the day will hold for me. My first objective every morning is to get outside. Weather permitting I will go for a walk for about 30 minutes. Enjoy the rest of your day. Txx

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the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:46 p.m.

That’s a great routine Teg, I’m glad you have locked it in.

The Gardener

Aug. 21, 2022, 10:17 a.m.

In our last house we woke in an 18th C bedroom, wooden pannelling painted three shades of honey, mouldings picked out in gilt. Tea was made by Mr G, Lapsong Suchon in porcelain you could see through. Summer months view of garden. House and Mr G no more, I cannot bother with tea in bed, not the same. Hate getting up, humanised this a.m by coffee, fresh pineapple, white peaches Muesli and Moodscope. But I have a dodgy back, described by an orthapaedic surgeon like a 'Crumbling Greek temple'. Nothing to do but keep as fit as possible, do all possible exercise. This does not include running, walking far, or standing for long. Did all that on horrendous journey home, inevitable result acute inflammation and pain. First pain killers for months, usual time 3 days to get back to normal. But it was worth it. Thanks Room xx

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The Gardener

Aug. 21, 2022, 10:22 a.m.

Worth it to attend wedding of daughter of my late son. People due from everywhere. Poor bride to be kept informed of progress of guests by an Aunt. Two failures, a cousin could not get leave from his work in Australia. Another cousin chose a superior affair, cousin of his wife;s in Massasuchets, Nancy Pelosi a guest no less (she escaped threatened battle between China and Taiwan) we all have tales to tell.

Oli

Aug. 21, 2022, noon

Orthopaedic surgeons have a bit of a reputation for talking like that Gardener. The words that orthopods and the rest of us use to describe scans and X-rays are really important. I've had people in a right pickle because of the words -- as if the actual structural issue wasn't enough. For one person "crumbing Greek temple" might mean "ruins" for another it's, "is there a Gift Shop?"

The Gardener

Aug. 21, 2022, 12:26 p.m.

Ha Ha, Oli. He did do all the tests before the pronouncement. Gave me 20 sessions with a physio. He put my X-ray up on wall and said 'Your back's a mess'. I thought 'Why do you think I am here?' Actually he was super, knew I had huge problems with Mr G to deal with - he was blunt, keep moving, keep the weight off.

Bearofliddlebrain

Aug. 21, 2022, 6:20 p.m.

Love that response Oli! Made me lol!! Just keep moving and don’t move to a bungalow, TG - keep using your stairs and no electric chairs to help you get up - use it or lose it! Bear xx

the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:48 p.m.

Me too Bear! I’m laughing here!!

the room above the garage

Aug. 22, 2022, 7:23 a.m.

Hello TG, I see my reply to you yesterday isn’t here…it was long but the important part was this…I’ve never tasted lapsong suchon tea and you make it sound extremely appealing in the porcelain cup! Should I try some and how do you serve it?

Patty

Aug. 21, 2022, 2:04 p.m.

I'm glad to have you writing about the difficulties of mornings. I lie in bed and don't want to get up yet can't sleep. My mind is dull of all kinds of clutter, but once I get up it is better. I have a cup of coffee in the living room and read moodscope and then text my sister. It seems to help to get going. I'm just glad to know I am not alone in finding mornings challenging.

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the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:49 p.m.

Patty this is it exactly, just simply reading of another’s similarity makes it easier. Coffee and a sister text…perfect.

Liz

Aug. 21, 2022, 6:38 p.m.

Hi RATG. I have something I do at night, but perhaps I should do it in the morning. Spray perfume on my wrists and neck. A lavender bag pressed to release the contents is nice. Definitely a cup of tea and back to bed with it, to read a book if I have time, which is heaven. I realise how much I hated mornings especially having to get up early to go to work. I work later in the day which alleviates the dread of the mornings and it seriously doesn't get to me this way. My husband prefers the other way around, to have the afternoon to himself. Services are never early up here - usually 12 noon, rare to have one before then. Last night I had truly awful dreams about being trapped and far far worse to come but somehow I managed to control my dream and escape. I dread to think what would have happened if I couldn't have got out of the terror and I would have brooded all day despite it being "just a dream". So quality of sleep does affect my mood and also therefore what I will feel like when I wake up. Thank you for your blog x

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the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:53 p.m.

Perfume…my youngest daughter likes to spray hers on just before bed. Since she was much, much younger. It’s just always been :-) She also had an awful dream last night, I think it’s the season change. It’s the start of autumn in Scotland…

Bearofliddlebrain

Aug. 21, 2022, 6:44 p.m.

Evening Ratg and hope your day has gone well - I’m sure it’s been another busy one! I’m late as we have been away since yesterday morning and had a lovely break staying with friends. Sadly got poor sleep (rolling eyes emoji!!). Your two ways of helping are so easy - I’m sure they will be helpful to others here :-)* One of the things I agree with is sorting things out the night before, from Oli. Being prepared! When doing the Sleepio course, I had to re-learn about what my body and mind needed and ultimately how to get better sleep and not feel cream crackered every day! I’ve always been an early to bed, early morning bear, but during the sleepio course I had to stay up until 1.00 am and be up at 6.00 - just five hours and they were interrupted as Mr. Bear has night terrors and snores a lot - so we had to sleep in separate bedrooms. Gradually I managed longer sleep periods of better quality sleep and now go to bed when I’m tired at around 10.30-ish but awaken from 5.30 - 6.00 am- sometimes I can persuade myself to drop off again as I tell myself I deserve more sleep and it can be a way of avoiding something I’m not looking forward to that day! One thing I have noticed is if I get up when I awaken with the sun, I feel so much better and take my cuppa out to sit in the early morning sunlight which restarts the circadian rhythm. I follow the sun light, making sure I go out into the sunlight at various times of the day but especially at around midday and again before dusk - as it tells the brain what time of day it is and when to prepare for bedtime. Baby Bear does this - and I know she is only 30, but she goes to bed at about 9.00pm and is up and out walking when she wakes at 5.30 am and feels so much better. Apologies - I’ve gone off the point a little! Do be careful of snacking, especially sugary snacks as sugar is inflammatory and causes many other issues…that we are only recently beginning to understand. Sorry that you and so many others have bothersome mornings most mornings - I flag in the evenings and still have some awakenings when I can brood and get racing thoughts - so I try to sort out what needs doing, the night before so there is less chance of me worrying when I wake up, Take care of ‘you’ sweetie! Love and Bear hugs x x x

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the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:56 p.m.

I love this Bear - waking early is a healthy body (provided, as you demonstrate, bedtime has also been early). I love falling asleep when it’s still light, it reminds me of being a child and hearing other children still playing outside. I wished I was too but then I was very sleepy and snuggled in…

the room above the garage

Aug. 21, 2022, 7:57 p.m.

Ah. You called me sweetie. And now I feel all lovely xx.

Teg

Aug. 22, 2022, 6:34 a.m.

Hi Bear/RATG I am sure sunlight is the key. I have just been outside for the first time. The yellow ball in the sky was shining very brightly with no distracting clouds. I stood for a few moments facing it, closed my eyes and enjoyed "the moment". This was only 10 minutes after rolling out of bed. Wonderful start to the day! Txx

the room above the garage

Aug. 22, 2022, 7:18 a.m.

That’s sounds heavenly! Raining here but I’m with you in my head :-)

Bearofliddlebrain

Aug. 22, 2022, 9:04 a.m.

Ah - lovely rain! What we in England are wishing for to replenish the garden that is parched….I too remember having to go to bed when it was still light and couldn’t understand why it was light and we had to be in bed (poor parents had had enough of us five by then!!). Mum was strict on bed times, but we’d lie awake then gently nod off….bliss really. Teg - those first rays of daylight (doesn’t have to be strong sun) are the best and so important to reset our body’s clocks (did you know we have a clock in many of our organs? I didn’t til I read up about it! Hope the rain doesn’t stop play today lovely Ratg and Teg- keep enjoying that sunshine - love and Bear hugs x x x

Leah

Aug. 21, 2022, 9:34 p.m.

Ratg I am not a morning person either but I am not much of a hot drink in the morn8ng person. For me a quick hit shower and clean clothes help me start the day. Thanks for your blogs which I read and enjoy even if I don’t post . Take care xx

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the room above the garage

Aug. 22, 2022, 7:20 a.m.

Hello Leah, it’s lovely to see you, I think of you and your beautiful shop a lot. I hope it’s okay to say it and bring it up x.

Fiona

Aug. 24, 2022, 8:23 a.m.

I’m rather late to the conversation but have been meaning to say that a few years ago I had two sessions of EFT tapping which although I practised for a while, didn’t really help. But the therapist talked about other ways to feel better on waking up, which I’d raised. She talked about relishing being in bed for a few minutes before getting up and doing my 3-minute breathing space mindfulness exercise at that point, which gives me a bit more time enjoying being in bed and not having to think about anything but my breathing and me. Only a short length of time, but it really seems to help (mostly!) and I mind less about the cost of the sessions which I’d slightly regretted, as just that small idea has been invaluable. Good luck to all you inspiring people! xx

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