May my heart always be open to little birds

21 Aug 2022
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“May my heart always be open to little

birds who are the secrets of living

whatever they sing is better than to know

and if men should not hear them men are old”

E E Cummings

This verse from Cummings’ famous poem reminds us of the power of keeping an open heart. A heart open to new experiences. A heart open to new adventures.

It is all too easy to close down when we feel depressed. You and I could even agree that this is the sensible thing to do, but a heart that is closed down is no longer open for business. And the heart’s business is ‘Life’ – enjoying it as fully as we may for the fleeting moments we are conscious on this Earth.

We could collaborate in creating a long list of habits and behaviours and thoughts and feelings that close us down and shut ‘Life’ out. Depression is joined by unforgiveness, unforgiveness by fear, fear by self-doubt… all accompanied by the words, “Don’t,” and, “No!” and, “Shan’t,” and, “Can’t.” Even writing them feels unpleasant yet safe. No risk means no pain – or at least less pain.

Yet, today, I would stay open to little birds that twitter secrets of living.

Today, I would say, “Yes!” to Life and risk and adventure.

Today, I would say, “I forgive you,” and, “Will you forgive me?” and, “I forgive myself.”

Today I would pursue love, which when perfected, casts out all fear and doubt.

Today I shall shout, “I can!” and, “I shall!” and, “I do!” and, “I will!”

Perhaps these are the secrets of living that they sing of.

Simply writing these already feels better.

Today, let us stay open for business, the business of Life.

What does ‘Open’ mean to you?

Lex

A Moodscope member.

A Moodscope member.

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Oli

Aug. 22, 2022, 4:44 a.m.

Being open is an ongoing attitude. It's keeping alive the idea that one doesn't know it all, that things can be different if and only iff, we are open to seeing things anew. Openness goes alongside awareness. Because it doesn't matter how open you are if you're not aware of your world -- and that's the external world and the internal world of how you see it. And both openness and awareness link to being engaged. It's the feeling of being bothered enough to commit to action. All three go together for me Lex. Openness, for me, is so much more useful than its opposite: the feeling of closedness: i.e. that feeling of things can only be this way. No, I like to be open to the idea that things can change. Low mood, for me, is characterised by the feeling that nothing can change. With that, awareness shrinks to just a dull sense of internal space. And then, why would you even bother to engage with anything? So being open to the idea that things can be different was/ is quite important to me. Thank you for the blog Lex.

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Valerie

Aug. 22, 2022, 6:18 a.m.

This is timely.I have to organise a meeting soon.A couple of the participants are very difficult people indeed,and last time trying to control my temper left me in quite a state afterwards.I am trying to open my mind to the idea that I can do this,it's not my fault they seem to have it in for me. I have certainly opened my heart to the adorable little Dunnocks who have taken over my hedges this year.They have had two lots of breeding,and watching the fledglings is a joy. Thank you Lex,I am off for a walk and will reflect on your blog.***

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Teg

Aug. 22, 2022, 6:47 a.m.

Good Morning Lex I am pleased you are "open for business" and doing a good sales job. "Open" for me means: * Being alive to all nature has to offer; the birds, the vegetation, the beauty all around. * Conversing with my fellow man (and woman!). Enjoying their company, smiling, laughing. * Being alone. Giving my mind and body what it wants. Maybe rest or reading or eating. But perhaps the key is self awareness. Being part of the world with all our Moodscope comrades. Thank you Lex because being open is also my joy in writing. Txx

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Jenny

Aug. 22, 2022, 7:13 a.m.

This is lovely and thought provoking, thank you x

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Bearofliddlebrain

Aug. 22, 2022, 7:39 a.m.

Thank you for your Tweet this morning Lex! Such a lovely blog - and a super start to it, using the extract from the pom…. Being open - I have shocked myself this weekend - twice! Being open to staying with new friends - and although I was sort of anxious that all would go well for my OH, for them and me (I was shaking and worried inside) I didn’t let it show and I was actually open to all the things they suggested we do - and of course there was nothing to worry about - it was lovely. I also shocked Baby Bear - as she sprang a ‘Tadah’ moment on me - a fait accompli - and she was shocked, as was Mr. Bear, at my reaction. This was when I think I actually shocked myself a second time!! Ha ha! But as I have messaged her this morning to reiterate I am ‘open and ok’ about her Tadah moment - I find I truly ‘am’ ok! Of course I want her to be safe and watch out for eejits but she is a grown woman who is very independent (until she needs us, ha, ha!) but who’d also worried that I would worry and panic over her decision….to take motorcycle lessons…on a very large motorbike! But she’s passed all the tests: theory and practical and even rode her bf’s bike from his house an hour and a half away (and will use it this week to and from work to get used to being out on the road on her own!) Phew!! Am going to try to stay open to possibilities of many varieties - meeting new swimblers when I next go swimbling! Always have butterflies in stomach cos they may expect an Olympic swimmer - and I am just a swimbler-with-a-sense-of-humour - it always bring me back to the saying ‘there’s nothing to fear, but fear itself’. I do worry beforehand, about many things, but they often end up being ok and so, of course, do I - the fear of what might happen is always worse. But I will try to stay ‘open’ to possibilities and just do ‘it’ anyway - even if a naughty voice tries to trick me into saying no! Thank you again Lex - a great start to the day and week. Love and Bear hugs x x x

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The Gardener

Aug. 22, 2022, 8:07 a.m.

Bear, I do not think I have ever felt more fear than for motor-bicycles and my children. My girls never took to them. Eldest son got a 'tame' one, then something so powerful it scared him, although he had driven everything motorised from age 13. Nowadays they are SO practical for traffic, dress the problem, and reluctant pillion riders. xx

Orangeblossom

Aug. 22, 2022, 8:13 a.m.

Thanks for your upbeat blog Lex Am beginning to re emerge like a phoenix from the ashes. Your blog is helping me along,

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Bearofliddlebrain

Aug. 22, 2022, 1:10 p.m.

Oh that is so good to hear my liddle OB Phoenix;-)* each step forward is such a big step x x x

The Gardener

Aug. 22, 2022, 8:16 a.m.

Oh Lex, your blog! One of those mornings when I need a magnifying glass for something cheerful. I adore birds, cats rendered them extinct here. I had become very brave and open to travel. I am still in great pain from the inflammation set up after Wednesday's horrific journey home. I KNOW I must take exercise and keep going. But today is the birthday of my Indian 'daughter'. She used to wear, with great joy, the outgrown dresses of my grand-daughter who married last week. 25 years of Indian daughter! She was thrown into the street by drunken father and illiterate mother. Taken into care by nuns, supported by French charity. Comingto end of third sponsporship - looking for a new project in that line. 'Open' equals welcoming people to my house - 4 new friends this year - plenty old ones, but beset by problems, some defeated by them. xx

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The Gardener

Aug. 22, 2022, 8:24 a.m.

Oh, my 'Morning Glory' flowers are fantastic - they only flower in August, and in the mornings. If you go on holiday you miss them Anybody who knows the South of France will know them as a bit of a pest - convulvus family, scramble everywhere - but of such a deep blue. Mine are from deepest violet to palest pink. Will go and have another look, make me go up and down stairs again - go anwyay, but pain-killers kicking in.

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Bearofliddlebrain

Aug. 22, 2022, 1:13 p.m.

Dearest TG - I love convolvulus - they grow ‘wild’ around here but are mainly white and soft pinkish hues. So long as you keep moving you’ll soon be back to normal - make sure you don’t have sugary products for a few days as the sugars cause inflammation ;-)*. Love and Bear hugs x x x

The Gardener

Aug. 22, 2022, 2:49 p.m.

Bear, I never touch sugar except for a dessert about once a week when out for a meal. Pain just cleared, usualy lasts 3/4 days after extreme annoyance like Wednesday. Decided against Rome, know it anyway, and spend my money being pampered at a Health farm! Facing the sea, so can indulge my passion for water. Hotel UK on Thames, so awful treatment only just mitigated. xx

Patty

Aug. 22, 2022, 1:50 p.m.

Thank you for your lovely blog, Lex. I love the idea to be open. I could use that reminder. We have little birds here at our new home and I love to watch them go in the bird bath and splash. They seem to be having a wonderful time. We have a lot of birds and bees in this garden at our new house. The landscape is filled with all kinds of flowers and shrubs which I love as well. Thanks again for your uplifting blog. I could use the reminder to be open to the good things this morning.

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Lex

Aug. 22, 2022, 4:20 p.m.

Dear friends... have just returned from trip to see family in Wales (hence not being with you rapidly responding today.) Stayed 'open' to new environments and experiences, and have to say the St Fagan's Museum of History is one of the best exhibits I have ever seen. Will respond to each comment soonish... ***

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Maggie May

Aug. 22, 2022, 7:32 p.m.

Hi Lex, I came back to Moodscope today after a long break. Won’t go into detail, but on my return I looked at the incredible trail if responses to the blog on June 2nd. So many old ‘friends’ still posting, still supporting each other ! It gave me a warm feeling. A feeling of belonging which I need just now . I then came to your post today. Your wrote the first blog I read , sometime in 2012 I think. You always have been so supportive of others. My husband died in January this year and I have been lost ever since…. Trying to just keep going. I’m glad I decided to come back and be able to enter this world if kindness again. Hello and hugs ( perhaps bear hugs) to all members, ones I feel I know and new ones. X

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Lex

Aug. 22, 2022, 7:55 p.m.

Welcome back, Maggie May. I feel so sorry for your loss. Let us know how we can help consistently. Lx

Teg

Aug. 23, 2022, 6:38 a.m.

Hi Maggie Welcome back. Look forward to hearing from you in the future. I am sure, like many of us, you have a *** tale to tell. Txx

Bearofliddlebrain

Aug. 23, 2022, 9:25 a.m.

Hi Maggie May - good to have you back in the Moodscope family food. I am so terribly sad about your loss - you must be shell-shocked even now…it’s hardly a few months since losing him and my thoughts are with you. Do keep in touch and any hugs are gratefully received…and especially Bear hugs ;-)* Bear x x x

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