Q and A (part 2)

22 Sep 2022
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On Friday Jul 25th this year I wrote a Q and A blog and people commented they would to see another one. So, I thought I would try it again.

If you missed the first Q and A it is just a chance to ask questions and maybe answer them, you can ask me a question or pose a general question to all Moodscopers.

We have a Q and A session online over time where someone poses a serious question, a simple question, a fun question whatever is on your mind, or you can ask more than one question.

So, let’s have fun, learn more about each other or ask me or the community something you have wanted to find out.

What you will discover is the large depth of information, experience, and wisdom that the community here possesses.

If you have never commented here before this maybe be suitable time to ask or answer a question.

My question to start is: When you are sick and physically run down how do you stop from being emotionally flat or overwhelmed?

Leah

A Moodscope member.

A Moodscope member.

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Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 1:11 a.m.

I made a mistake as my previous Q and A was july 29 2022, in case anyone wants to look at the format. I am looking forward to questions and answers and having to think and having fun. Take care.

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Daisy

Sept. 23, 2022, 7:27 p.m.

If I feel unwell a hot bath clean sheets and sleep

Janet

Sept. 23, 2022, 5:32 a.m.

I sleep and drink water

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Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 7:12 a.m.

Janet thanks for your answer.

Lynzi

Sept. 23, 2022, 7:12 a.m.

Thank you Leah. I get my dates mixed up too. I'm time blind though. Your question resonates with me because I'm recovering from surgery. I commented a while ago l was awaiting the procedure for ongoing skin cancer treatment. I was worried the deterioration in my physical state would negatively impact my mental state, mainly because l can't do lots of vigorous exercise, which is one of the main parts of my staying well plan. Or my mandala as l like to call it. So yes, I'm in some pain and not as mentally positive as l could be, but I'm trying hard with the other parts, trying to stay connected (I'm notoriously bad for shutting myself off); music; learning; trying to remember to drink water; trying to get outside at least once per day; more... Luckily, I've only had to have 2 cuts (wider excision of the tumour site on my left butt and the sentinel lymph node left pelvis under general anesthetic). I'm more mobile than l feared. Still able to dance some, but not break dance with my 5 year old, yet!! Ouch!!! I'm conscious that my irritability is 3 and I'm not properly engaging with family tasks that bore me. A sign I'm starting to become manic (aggression) or avoidant and depressed (lack of engagement). I have good insight though and good support. Although my husband has lost his **** with me this morning. I needed to comment though. I'm a work in progress. Perhaps we all are :) Take care Moodscopers. Love, peace, sparkles; namaste! Lindsey x

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Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 7:45 a.m.

Lynzi I feel so humble reading your courageous reply and how you are coping. Puts my small issues into perspective.

The Gardener

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:01 a.m.

Dear Lynzi, I am absolutely with you in spirit, and gunning for you to get well. You need all the support you can get. When my son was in hospital, at the worst time of day, 2 a.m when your body clock tells you everything is wrong he would What's App his brother in Australia, who would be having lunch. So between family and super hospital staff he stayed in contact and, mostly, positive. I hope you get this support. Namaste x

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:10 a.m.

Yess I too wish Lynzi all the best and thanks for your honesty.

Vivien

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:15 a.m.

Take care Lynzi, sending love and hugs xxxx

Bearofliddlebrain

Sept. 23, 2022, 10:27 a.m.

Wow Lynzi - well done you for coming here to comment - I will add my good thoughts and Bear hugs and love - hoping you get over this surgery soon and are able to take small steps forward…having a young child is super exhausting too - hopefully he is back at school so you can have a ‘break’ from the constant child care. Sorry your OH lost his sh1..this inning - he is probably very worried about you but sometimes people can’t express themselves when all around them isn’t going well - take it as a sign of him being unable to keep calm and carry on! You’re doing amazingly well so look after yourself. Eat plenty of protein to help your body heal - sending love and Bear hugs x x x

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 10:34 a.m.

Vivien Thanks for kind thoughts.n

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 10:37 a.m.

Beat Thanks for your hugs and kind wishes to Lynzi.

Teg

Sept. 23, 2022, 1:13 p.m.

Hi Lynzi I'm glad you made the effort to make this comment. I can sense you are very determined to manage your current physical problems and are very aware of the repercussions as far as your MH is concerned. This is very positive and encouraging. As I mentioned when replying to Leah's question, self compassion is paramount. Don't be hard on yourself expecting to be back to normal too soon. Give your body( and mind!) time to adjust to your new circumstances. Look after yourself and I hope your recovery goes well. Txx

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:30 p.m.

Teg what a lovely kind and helpful reply to Lynzi. Self compassion can be hard as we are so kind to others but harder on ourselves.

Bunnykins

Sept. 23, 2022, 7:37 a.m.

Hi Leah, I now tell myself "it's okay" to: lie down & rest; listen to the radio quietly (Classic FM or radio 4) read a favourite author & drink lots of tea. Not properly awake yet so may come back later x Angela

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Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 7:46 a.m.

Bunnykins Thanks for your answer. I drink lots of herbal tea.

The Gardener

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:11 a.m.

Leah, Q. Do you feel Australian? I know you lost your community in the most shattering way, have you managed to make a 'substitute' community. I have had an 'international' week. Watched the Queen's funeral with a French friend on UK TV. She watched the procession in Windsor on French TV at home, said it was awful, the commentators all talked at once over the top of the proceedings. We agreed that there is nothing in the world to touch British pageantry (and it's not theatre, it's history). I watch 'Last Night of the Proms' (cancelled this year). But all the Jingoistic music and flag waving really has little meaning now. My French friend asked me about my inner feelings, having lived half my life in France, remain British, family UK or Australia. I said I feel 'European', and your Q & A made me question this. Yes, Wednesday, British, French, German. I could live here, Italy or Spain. BUT, I was born British, will remain so, though I could not and would not live there. Hmm? xx

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The Gardener

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:15 a.m.

Oh, the 'accident of birth'. My mum was born in Dublin, giving me the right to an Irish (European) passport, so sucks to Brexit. But I have fears for my Indian 'daughter' and my proxi grand-sons. The current PM wants to make India a Hindu state, this would mean a blood bath as there are 200 million Moslems. Christians are already suffering ill-treatment, takes me straight back to the wars of religion in this town. No escape for that little family in Bangalore.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:09 a.m.

TG I lost my community when I moved away. I feel Australian but I don’t feel I fit in my new town yet. It takes a while. I think because of covid I haven’t really felt part of new place. The place where I volunteer is like my extended family.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:11 a.m.

Yes TG accident if birth. I think maybe we would be better off without nations.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:32 p.m.

TG. I rather feel I am part of the world as not typically Australian or the sporty loud beer drinking stereotype. I have an Eastern European background so zI am a hybrid. Good question and each time I answer differently,

Oli

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:50 a.m.

So far Leah I’ve done this twice. The first was about 30 years ago when I experienced debilitating back pain. At first you just expect it to get better but it didn’t. As the days turned into weeks, and those turned into months, I saw an increasing number of doctors, therapists, specialists for scans, medication, and treatments. For over four years it just got worse till it settled a low functioning, persisting pain, cr*ppy life. As if the pain wasn’t bad enough I lost my sense of who I was because there was nothing I could do like I used to. It cost me my marriage. I think “emotionally flat and overwhelmed” is as good a way to describe it as any. Then I got lucky and — really long story — things got better. The second time with major sickness I was better able to cope. When I caught Covid in the first wave the actual sickness wasn’t too bad but the aftermath took ages to shake off. I’d lost nearly all sense of taste, I had raging tinnitus, and I was getting episodes of cognitive struggle (like, for example, I literally couldn’t subtract 7 from 86). I’d also lost a lot of physical stamina. Before Covid I could walk at a fast pace for a couple of hours, no problem. After Covid I couldn’t manage ten minutes. It wasn’t shortness of breath, it was fatigue and the fatigue could hit at any time. I thought my life had possibly changed permanently. The fatigue lasted 10 months and back then we didn’t have data to predict an outcome. However, mentally I was more accepting. I didn’t like it but I was able to keep a perspective and not be overwhelmed. I think the most helpful thing, for me, was knowing how becoming lost in the problem really made the back pain worse all those years ago and I was determined to keep perspective with the Covid aftermath. It wasn’t perfect but it was better. Acknowledging reality without judging it; doing what I can pro-actively to improve matters.

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Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:15 a.m.

Oli your insights into covid have helped me as my experience is in last few weeks. I reall like and relate to your last sentence. Acknowledging reality without judging it; doing what I can pro-actively to improve matters. The tiredness has thrown me and physically I could climb up hu dress of steps ahead of others. I could too walk at a fast pace. Now getting dressed leaves me very tired.

Teg

Sept. 23, 2022, 1:19 p.m.

Hi Oli An excellent reply with loads of personal practical advice. You have not only survived two major life traumas but have learnt valuable lessons. Importantly you are willing to pass on those learnings to others. Thank you. Txx

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:23 p.m.

Teg I agree I always learn from Olis posts I just need to put his wisdom into practice.

Lexi

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:15 p.m.

Oli your last sentence really struck me. I'm suffering right now but will not give in to the "moment" of shame and pity, but rather seeing this past week as a blessing dressed up as a curse and a chance to renew.xo

Leah

Sept. 24, 2022, 7:23 a.m.

Lexi I agree with Lexi last sentence too which is why I repeated it.i hope you feel better soon.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:06 a.m.

Thanks for all your answers. Maybe some moodscopers will pose more questions so we have a variety.

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Teg

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:12 a.m.

Hi Leah Another Q & S session, great idea! As I said in July I like this format as it gives everybody a chance to choose a subject dear to their heart. Your question touches on the link between mental and physical health. There is no doubt in my mind that this link is very strong and problems in one area will often shows themselves in the other. The timing of your question is very appropriate for me as I have been suffering this week with flu like symptoms. Aches in joints and muscles particularly the legs which have felt on fire. Plenty of fluids and paracetomal to lessen the physical discomfort. But my MH also started to dip. No walks or gardening to help. My advise to myself was to show self compassion. Take it easy. Nothing too strenuous; plenty of rest periods. Concentrate only on the essentials. Don't feel guilty, you need to look after yourself. Of course please remind yourself "it will pass" as it always does. I will look at other questions later in the day. Thanks Leah. Txx

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Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:17 a.m.

Teg I was thinking you would ask a question, maybe later. I know it will pass but I sorry it won’t. Thanks for your answer.

Bearofliddlebrain

Sept. 23, 2022, 10:34 a.m.

Lovely Teg - poorly Teg (insert sad emoji here). So sorry you are under the weather and haven’t been able to get your dose of gardening and probably bowling. Maybe if you wrap up and just go and sit in the garden that might help your MH? Or sit near a window and feel the warmth, if the sun is out. Read a light/fluffy magazine or just look at the pics - nothing demanding. Chicken soup - made by Mrs. Teg from proper bone broth. Wrap up and keep cosy and hopefully you are getting over the worst of this and can start to see some light at the end of the…garden! Love and Bear hugs x x x

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 10:39 a.m.

Bear Thanks for your kind thoughts to Teg

Teg

Sept. 23, 2022, 12:04 p.m.

Mrs Bear Your very kind words are a great tonic. I do feel a little better today, thank you. I have been trying to take my own advice! Sitting in the warm sunshine filled conserve fiddling about with jigsaw pieces. I can see part of the garden now and I can admire my latest plant addition. I bought an Alstromeria a few weeks ago and its yellow and orange flowers are a joy. Your good wishes are well received and I hope you are enjoying the Indian summer ( the name of the plant!) Txx

Teg

Sept. 23, 2022, 1:39 p.m.

Hi Leah We know things do pass but of course we don't know when. Patience is a great virtue! I am concerned about how the world will manage with MH sufferers on the increase. Existing resources are being stretched to the limit and although people are paying for private care it is expensive. There are many private organisations where help is provided a little or no cost( eg Moodscope!). I feel very grateful; I can afford regular therapy and I have discovered this community. How can we best help all the others? Txx

Jul

Sept. 23, 2022, 4:46 p.m.

How are you feeling now Teg? Better I hope even a little? Jul xx

Teg

Sept. 23, 2022, 5:36 p.m.

Hi Kind of you to ask. The symptoms seem to be receding a little; only taken two paras today. Enjoyed a ten minute walk in the garden. I hope you are enjoying your walks along the coast in the sunshine. Thanks Txx

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:22 p.m.

Teg I too like admiring plants but I can make artificial plants wither.Is that plant you mentioned a succulent, I will look it up. Thanks again for your answers. I hope the pain is lessening a little.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:28 p.m.

I too am concerned about Tegs health. Thanks Jul for caring.

Teg

Sept. 24, 2022, 6:19 a.m.

Hi Leah Thanks for your concerns. I am feeling a lot better this morning so might venture out. Alstroemerias also called Inca or Peruvian Lily are perennials. Lovely bright multi coloured flowers from May to September. Max height and width about 3 foot. Pleased to see good response to your Q & A. Post. Next one around Christmas? Txx

Leah

Sept. 24, 2022, 7:26 a.m.

Every Q and A has its own rhythm. I like the way people comment to each other.

Vivien

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:19 a.m.

When life threatens to overwhelm me, I try and take a step back. I find my book and read a couple of chapters or put my eye mask on and listen to Classical music for a short while. I try not to 'overthink' the issue - oh just thought of something. I do some gardening! If a weed or plant is being particularly stubborn, I think of the problem or maybe person that is causing me grief, then whoosh, out comes the weed or plant and I feel so much better! xxxx

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Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 10:25 a.m.

Vivien Thsnks for the weed analogy except I am a bad weeded and some of the weeds are often left in the ground.

Bearofliddlebrain

Sept. 23, 2022, 10:44 a.m.

Hi Leah - am late - been a busy morning flitting here and there. My question to you and other `Moodscopers’ is - do you ever/still Give Blood? I went again yesterday to donate and thought I’d followed all the correct protocols - i.e. drinking plenty of fluids beforehand, eating lunch (tick both of those!). But the nurse taking the blood said I shouldn’t have had tea/coffee in the morning as it dehydrates the body. I used the trip to our old area to donate, to also pop in to see my old neighbours - whilst I was helping them, I came over faint and ended up having to lie down…twice! Felt such a twit - but still don’t feel well again today, so am wondering if I should continue to donate…..I like to ‘do my bit’ and I know from the urgent texts that they needed the blood. In answer to your own question, for whilst I’m not 100% (including now - but thankfully the busy jobs are done) I rest more, eat and drink plenty of fluids, do a bit of crochet or watch a fun programme or film that takes my mind off feeling rubbish or wiped out - if I’m really poorly I’ll be on the settee under a blanket or in bed - but thankfully that is rare. Thank you for another great blog. Love and Bear hugs x x x

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Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 11:14 a.m.

Bear I gave blood for about 40 years and then stopped not sure if it was age thing or some medical reason. Thsnks for asking a question looking forward to seeing more questions.

Jul

Sept. 23, 2022, 11:44 a.m.

Hello Leah I am not often ill and if I do feel slightly under the weather, I will tell myself it's psychosomatic. However when I had Covid in May/June/ July this year, I knew I was ill ill. I was frightened and thought I'd maybe end up in a wheelchair but didn't and am now back to normal, fighting fit etc. I was lucky to see a consultant and have all sorts of tests. I was diagnosed with a reactive response to Covid (I can't remember the exact wording but something like that and it made perfect sense.) So with Covid, I didn't feel overwhelmed emotionally as that's how I feel most of the time! I had something to show for my worry and anxiety so to speak and did not notice my low mood, insomnia or anything I normally notice on a daily basis. Jul xx

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Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:38 p.m.

Jul Thanks foryour very thoughtful answer. It made a lot of sense. I have developed a UTI after covid and not serious but just annoying and tiring. I am glad you are better now, I need to be patient,

Orangeblossom

Sept. 23, 2022, 12:24 p.m.

Hi Leah, thanks for your blog & especially the question which I am working through at this moment. Pacing myself is always a great challenge especially since retirement. Taking small steps since catching shingles then Covid has blighted this year. However I am learning to take each day as it comes. I have been reading books, which gives me pleasure. I read somewhere that every day may not be good but it has some good things to enjoy & be grateful for.

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Teg

Sept. 23, 2022, 1:27 p.m.

Hi OB Covid and shingles together is tough but you are winning! Taking each day as it comes is sensible when you are going through difficult times. However, I think some thought about future events is important. My Post tomorrow says more on that subject. Txx

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:40 p.m.

OB That is a difficult combination covid and shingles. I am glad you find reading gives you pleasure right now I am too tired to read and concentrate.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:44 p.m.

Teg your blog tomorrow sounds interesting. As I a m writing one about history our past and how weare often to,d to move in or forget it and stay focussed on the present and look forward to future, If we don’t learn from our past how can we be. In present and plan for the future. I see my blog and yours as complimenting each other,!,,, Thanks Teg,

Daisy

Sept. 23, 2022, 1:31 p.m.

Hi Leah My question to scopers is What is your passion in life? For me I don’t have one but a couple of warm interests nature art science

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Oli

Sept. 23, 2022, 2:45 p.m.

Daisy, lovely question. I come alive with a couple of things: playing live since the pandemic hiatus. I got a re-kindled love for playing. Was editing some band videos this morning and smiling cos we are all clearly having a lot of fun. And I absolutely love working with people therapeutically. There are so many paradoxes with hypnosis; it's endlessly fascinating for me. And I'm back with my love of philosophy too. Again a re-kindled love -- I'm no philosopher but I don't tire of aspiring to understand a little cluster of philosophical questions.

Teg

Sept. 23, 2022, 5:41 p.m.

Hi Daisy An excellent question. In my notebook I have written the words "Passion and Purpose" as a possible subject for another Post. I think we need these to give meaning to our lives. I am passionate about Moodscope and general MH matters. My other passions during the summer months have been bowling and gardening. Txx

Daisy

Sept. 23, 2022, 7:22 p.m.

Great passions Oli do you have links to your videos?

Daisy

Sept. 23, 2022, 7:23 p.m.

Teg I look forward to your blog

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

Daisy Thanks for your question. I love books and especially old books. That are in poor condition and I wonder about their previous owners. I am passionate about talking about mental health and my lived experience if it can help others, I love writing , words, reading, speaking, the derivations of words. I was passionate about my shop. I am passionate about lessening human suffering and in justice . There is more but that is a start.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

Oli I can see your passions when you reply thoughtfully to comments. I like learning about about philosophy too . I can see how you love working with people Therapeutically and wish I knew a therapist with your compassion patience and u derstanding and humility.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9 p.m.

Teg passion and purpose two of my words that promot me in my writing.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:02 p.m.

Daisy yes a link to Olis videos would be helpful.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:02 p.m.

Daisy, yes I look forward to Tegs blogs as they make me think.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:03 p.m.

Daisy thsnks for this question and the responses it generated.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:05 p.m.

Daisy From your comments I see you as being very caring about others, maybe passionate in you concern .

Another Sally

Sept. 23, 2022, 2:36 p.m.

Hi Leah, coming to this late. I’ll answer Bear first, if I may. I gave blood for quite a while, but had to stop because I had acupuncture. Have restarted this year, but, due to staff shortages they cancelled my July appointment about an hour before I was due to be there. (Angry, frustrated emoji) Next due in November. Their loss. Leah, one of my coping strategies when I was really not good was acupuncture, but I am learning to do without at the moment. I nearly went a couple of weeks ago, but she couldn’t see me before my holiday. I had a massage and some reflexology instead, at least that won’t upset the donor session. I am almost through a 10 day holiday in France. We have had beautiful weather, staying in a wonderful gîte, visiting interesting places and eating yummy food. Only drawback is the expanding waistline! Trouble is I have to return to ‘normality’ on Tuesday. Best wishes one and all. AS xx

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Jul

Sept. 23, 2022, 3:43 p.m.

Which part of France did you go to Another Sally? I know you and I left for France on the same day I never miss a thing on Moodscope lol!). But we got back yesterday. I hope you've been having a lovely time. Jul xx

Another Sally

Sept. 23, 2022, 4:30 p.m.

Hi Jul, Bretagne entre Plöermel et Vannes. En ce moment on discute la route vers Orbec, Normandie. Là ou nous avions eu une maison, il y a 5 ans que nous l’avons vendue. TG are you up for a brief visit domain vers 12.00? AS x

Jul

Sept. 23, 2022, 4:45 p.m.

Merci pour ta reponse AS! C'est pas bon etre en Angleterre! Bon retour Mardi. Jul xx

The Gardener

Sept. 23, 2022, 4:49 p.m.

AS, how marvellous - week has been like this! Sandwhich and coffee or a glass? Can't wait, give me someting to get up for!! xx. Don't know if you have my phone number, will pop it on an e-mail to you.

The Gardener

Sept. 23, 2022, 4:55 p.m.

Jul, can't keep up with you, thought you were in Spain?? xx

Teg

Sept. 23, 2022, 5:45 p.m.

Hi AS & Jul Help; I last studied O level French about 60 years ago. I know Moodscope is international but there are limits! Txx

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:07 p.m.

Teg My school girl French could understand but I would not be able to reply in French.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:10 p.m.

As thanks for your post and answering questions. I am happy you can travel so easily to France and glad you had a good time.n

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:11 p.m.

Jul what a coincident of you leaving on same day

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:13 p.m.

As My French teach would be pleased I can still read French but my accent is awful!!

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:15 p.m.

Jul It is interesting how my reading of French is better than understanding spoken word as spoken is so fast.

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:16 p.m.

TG how lovely to get a visit from AS

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:17 p.m.

TG I find it hard to keep up with what others are doing at times on moodscope I blame my memory at this time on post covid.

Another Sally

Sept. 23, 2022, 6:20 p.m.

Sorry Teg, it was just an impulse to write to Jul in French. I said I was staying between two towns in Brittany and had been talking to my OH about whether to drive to Normandy for our next stop, via the Gardner’s place which was sort of en route. It is 5 years since we sold our holiday home in Normandy and we have been missing it very much. When my daughter died, 5 years ago, the Gardener, though I didn’t know her, planted an iris garden in memory of my child and other family that Moodscopers had lost. I got in touch via Caroline and decided to try and visit. AS x

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Teg

Sept. 23, 2022, 6:29 p.m.

Hi AS I was only joking so no apology required. I cannot remember hearing about the loss of your daughter. How very sad. I hope you enjoy the rest of your holiday. Au revoir! Txx

Daisy

Sept. 23, 2022, 7:27 p.m.

As - that is so sad about your daughter and so lovely by the gardener - I am glad you are stopping to see the garden

Liz

Sept. 23, 2022, 8:52 p.m.

Hi AS, that is such a beautiful gesture by the Gardener. How thoughtful for you and the others. So very sorry about the loss of your daughter x

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:19 p.m.

Teg maybe it was before your time on moodscope

Leah

Sept. 23, 2022, 9:20 p.m.

AS I remember that , how kind of her.

Leah

Sept. 24, 2022, 4:56 a.m.

Liz It is part of my culture by planting a tree to remember a loved one.

Leah

Sept. 24, 2022, 5:31 a.m.

Thanks for your comments and questions. There is still time to ask questions you have always wanted to ask. The depth and variety of wisdom of moodscopers is inspiring.

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Samantha

Sept. 25, 2022, 11:33 a.m.

Leah, thank you for getting this going for all of us. When I am not at my best, I always make sure to take a second, close my eyes and breathe. I try to take myself into the present moment and comfort myself; I tell myself it's okay, I'm okay, I'm safe. During those darkest moments, I realize that I have to keep going, no one else is going to do it for me and I am capable, fully capable. Then I immerse myself in my "work," which includes reading, researching and helping others. I'm a therapist but am working on writing books and creating courses that will hopefully help more people than I can currently. I can also be more creative this way. I guess when I'm really down, I get into my creativity - I really dive into what makes me ME and I let myself off whatever hook I've put myself on. I have a question I'd love to hear answers, if anyone would like to share... What have you done during your darkest moments to pull you through and come out on the other side? What kept you going? I have so many other questions I would love to ask in the future :)

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Samantha

Sept. 25, 2022, 11:40 a.m.

Taking this a different route, what are your triggers? How do you experience them? What do you do during these moments to feel better?

Leah

Sept. 26, 2022, 6:31 a.m.

What good questions you have asked. Samantha.iI think the thought of my children grandchildren , friends, and the thought I am a survivor helps me when struggling. Triggers can vary and are un predictable . I just need to work out why I am triggered and the what is triggering

Samantha

Sept. 26, 2022, 10:25 a.m.

Thank you so much for your response, Leah. I'm so glad you're able to tap into your love and strength to get through those difficult times. Triggers are confusing at times for sure. The mind and body remember, chemically, things from the past; what isn't really a threat today feels like one, due to this memory. The medicine for this is to tell teach the mind and body how to feel and think. The chemicals then change and genes can actually change as well. It only takes practice; it took me years of dealing with my stubborn mind to get there but it works. I still have my own down days but we are human and I'm okay with it. I've learned alot by practicing on myself, with clients, family and friends, all the research I've done. Currently working on my doctorate and PhD is what is really opening up my eyes. It really is simple, we make it too hard and create a prison of suffering for ourselves. I'm rambling a bit haha. This is my passion to help people just feel better because I know how it feels to feel the opposite of this. And we don't have to ;)

Leah

Sept. 26, 2022, 10:42 a.m.

Samantha I admire your study that will help others by your research and own experience.

Samantha

Sept. 26, 2022, 8:41 p.m.

Thank you so much, Leah. It is very fulfilling and super-fun in the process :)

Leah

Sept. 27, 2022, 8:36 a.m.

Sam’s tha sounds like hard work to me.well done

Samantha

Sept. 27, 2022, 9:42 a.m.

I try to keep it simple and fun, otherwise I might lose my mind lol. But knowing that I do have control over my mind, I affirm it's all easy :) Took me years of practice, which was the hard work!

Leah

Sept. 28, 2022, 10:30 a.m.

Samantha people who are skilled say it is simple and fun even though it was hard work.

Samantha

Sept. 30, 2022, 11:33 p.m.

Exactly. Being skilled takes practice, which definitely is the work.

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