The quandary of a holiday

14 Sep 2022
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I really want to go and visit places in this country and abroad. But I hate being away from my home. I want a change of scene. But I love where I live. I want to challenge my fears. But I am afraid of coming out of my comfort zone.

I used to quite enjoy plane travel. After last time, not at all. I find being around lots of people draining. That doesn't change. If I go with my husband (and that is pretty much a given) he is even more of a stress-head than me, and it builds up. I feel quite sad that I don't really enjoy that feeling of being on holiday that other people seem to so intensely enjoy and I feel I am missing out. The last time I went on a plane earlier this year, I had a lift back from a friend and we had left slightly later. She had a passenger in the back who was suggesting we went a different way and I kept looking at the time and panicking, worrying I was going to miss my flight back to my own country, but having to mask my irritation and panic, with her being chirpy and upbeat.

You don't want to look a lift horse in the mouth but I was ready to snap at any moment. That said, it left me little time to do anything other than look up with dismay when I got to the airport to see that I was a fair way from the terminal I needed to be at. I had two dresses on because I had overpacked my case and my phone was about to run out of charge. They had also temporarily lost my expensive boot (thankfully located soon) but a brooch on my coat set off an alarm and I had to step back and was a little barked at to stretch out my legs and arms so they could check I was not armed... I was not expecting that.

I would love to know if anyone else feels this way. They are desperate to discover more of the world but either money or inclination or fear stops them. For me a combination of all three can be a factor or at least one or two. I prefer having self catering because that feels more like home and although it takes me a few days to settle, it is much preferable to bed and breakfast. I hate with a passion having to sit with other couples in a room, hushed tones, forced to eat what is on offer rather than suit myself, and getting up early. The latter is like a backlash of working full-time for 30 years and having to get in to work at 8.30 or 9 for five days on the trot. I miss our bed, TV, sofa (and the dog, if we have to have him looked after as we did earlier this year) and much more. Please tell me I'm not alone.

Liz

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Jul

Sept. 15, 2022, 7:05 a.m.

Hi Liz I don't think you are alone in your dislike of airports and the stress around flying. Many people will not fly these days through fear of something happening en route (in the air) or because of the awfulness of major airports which are basically shops attached to a runway. I like getting away from my home though and after two or three weeks here I am itching to go somewhere, usually to our house in France but anywhere will do! My OH was at our Normandie house without me once in the early days of buying it and rang me to say you'll be very happy; there are no airports within reach! In one way though, it's lovely that you love your home in the Highlands and are content there Liz. I imagine you will get many supportive comments today. Jul ***

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Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 8:47 p.m.

Hi Jul, it just has got so much worse flying anywhere. I do envy you having a house in France... we love going to France but it has been a while. I do love my home and am content but I did challenge myself as we booked a holiday in Northumberland, just the two of us and our dog and have not long been back. It was lovely. Every small step is a beginning to bigger steps. Thanks for your reply x

Teg

Sept. 15, 2022, 7:12 a.m.

Good morning Liz I am sure you are not alone. Many years before Covid we would take our main annual holiday abroad to find the warm sun and enjoy different countries. Flying was time consuming due to airport delays etc. Then one year we decided to stop flying abroad and concentrate on our own wonderful country. There were so many places in the UK we had not visited so we made this our holiday priority. For several years before Covid we experienced so many different UK places we had not been to before. For example Scotland(!), Lake district, Pembrokeshire. I think the main objectives in getting away are a break from normal routine and to enjoy new experiences. Hopefully to return with renewed optimism and less stress. Is location so important in order to achieve those aims? Hope this helps. Regards to the highlands Teg

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Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

Hi Teg. You are right, there are so many places to go. I always think that if our weather could be more guaranteed, that people wouldn't go abroad so much. I love the Lake District but haven't been to Pembrokeshire. You are right about the objectives for a holiday - I seem to be feeling a little sad that I'm back to work now! I am sure I will get back into the swing of things but my cogs are always whirring! Thanks for your reply :0)

Sheena

Sept. 15, 2022, 7:20 a.m.

Oh Dear! Liz there are so many ways to look at this and one is that you could enjoy shrinking your carbon footprint whilst indulging what feels restful and restorative to you. For example: my idea of a good anything is meeting new people. I quite understand that others like to be with family or longstanding friends. The UK is varied, beautiful and I gather English is widely spoken. The food available is varied and from many different continent. If travelled by train there is so much to see. Just one suggestion to enjoy a break and maybe feel rested?

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Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 8:57 p.m.

Hi Sheena, yes that is true and as you say, the UK is so varied in so many respects. I did manage to get away and I put this blog together before I went... was worried about how it would go but it turned out to be unfounded. We want to go again next year and to work out where to go. Thank you for your reply x

Norman

Sept. 15, 2022, 7:43 a.m.

Hi Liz! Holidays for various reasons have been few and far between for most of my life. Long periods of unemployment and associated poverty ruled it out, and when I was in work usually unable to plan that far ahead, or unable to find a holiday partner. A "staycation" for me is a typical holiday. Catch up on house-keeping and DIY, relax and enjoy my home. At school my friends father was a long-distance lorry-driver. His idea of a holiday was putting his feet up and enjoying the home his work provided, much to the frustration of his family1 I do get annoyed by people who go to places I'd like to go and just do the "box-ticking" without leaving the beaten track. I was once sitting on a low wall in Istanbul and a rural Turk asked me for directions in Turkish: result! I like walking, looking at buildings and people-watching. Seeing how people live. I like B&B, I usually manage to get into conversation with fellow guests, although I agree that self-catering can be very liberating. Renting a hut on my own in a wildlife park in Zimbabwe really allowed me to dig down deep into my being. Constant job-seeking for me often involved travel and overnight stops. I used to think I'd invented a new form of tourism! Travel, interview, relax and unwind on return journey, lie-in the following day. Rinse and repeat. And I agree with airports. Security is now so strict that the terrorists have won by depriving us of the fun of flying. Give me the train and the ferry any day (time permitting.) Happy holiday!

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Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:03 p.m.

Hi Norman. Sorry to hear that due to unstable employment and lack of funds has prevented you from seeing more of the world. Staycations though are a good way of sorting stuff out at home and exploring more of the local area and just not looking at the clock all the time. It definitely winds me up with the box ticking - the sort that will go to an amazing concert and take selfies rather than listen and appreciate and watch the band. I am the same as you, can't stand a typical package beach holiday. Love the sound of the Zimabwe experience - that sounds amazing. The train is so expensive though but I love travelling that way if I can. Fondly remember a long trip to see my Dad on the island of Arran with our little terrier for company, all the way from the South of England. We did bus, train and ferry to get there. Thank you for your reply :0)

Oldie but Goldie

Sept. 15, 2022, 7:52 a.m.

Liz, Rest assured, you are not alone in your paradoxical attitude towards holidays. I've loved travel for over 40 years, I always enjoy going to new places and having new experiences .... but, in recent years, I've frequently found travel exhausting and/or stressful - especially air travel. And I share your dislike of all-in holidays with little choice of eating times or food. Over the last 20-30 years, my holidays have usually been the biggest thing that distinguish one year from the next. The thought of doing without holidays, or only going away to places a few hours' drive away, depresses me. So what to do? I'm too young (early 60s) to just accept that my travelling days are finished, but I've found a compromise I enjoy, i.e. short-ish organised holidays by coach or train to the near continent, almost always on a B&B basis. Companies like Door2Door, Newmarket and Leger - there are many more - offer many choices. Interestingly, I've found an unexpected joy in going back to areas I've been to before, and looking at places through older eyes, seeing places in more depth, and finding more to enjoy. Don't give up! There is hope!

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The Gardener

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:08 a.m.

OBG, I have travelled widely, most means of transport - big bogey at the moment, I wrote two weeks ago about a horrendous trip back from UK, and there were no dramas (as in strikes or bad weather) and everything was booked. So 'travel hopefully or stay at home', going for the former, can't stay put.

Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:15 p.m.

Hi OBG. It feels like I am definitely not alone. I hate the package holiday. One of the best ones I arranged myself was our honeymoon. There was a company called Octopus Travel where you could just book the various bits with them and you got a voucher which you printed at the other end. It was fabulous. Oh I don't think you should feel your travelling days are over... one of my best friends is 70 plus and still travelling! Thank you for your reply x

The Gardener

Sept. 15, 2022, 7:57 a.m.

Oh Liz! What a blog! I wrote a blog 'Oh to be in England' 2 weeks ago, tongue in cheek and threatening never to move out of my town again. But now booked for a month in Italy next Spring, by train! Agree 110% with Dalai Lama 'thought for today'. Will now do my chores thinking over all the travel dramas I have survived. Funeral bell tolling for a 94 year old here - full of the dignity of yesterday's cortege through London, for a 96 year old lady who was the most travelled in the world. So she would not have had to panic about the arrangements, or missing a flight, or the indignities of a search, but it was said she did not like flying and insisted on a St Christopher medallion on the flight - so even she must have had 'frissons'.

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Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:20 p.m.

Hi Gardener. I remember that blog and the fact that you booked a month next year in Italy - much admiration for that. Perhaps I should get myself a St Christopher. I like the sound of that. x

Sue

Sept. 15, 2022, 8:17 a.m.

Hi Liz, no you are not alone. I love being away but before we go is often a time of anxiety and a will we/wont we get there feeling. When we were working, we went away several times a year, but since we have both retired, we tend to stick mainly to weekends away. We love cruising but after covid have not returned to that as the thought of catching covid and being confined to cabin for 10 days is too much to consider. I used to fly a lot between London and Edinburgh for work, but it is too stressful now. The last time we flew was 6 years ago when the ship we were on had a fire and they had to cancel the remainder of the cruise and fly us home. At least it was from a small airport without too much of the hassle associated with flying now. We were due to be in Scotland this week but for a variety of reasons we cancelled. Actually, a good things as we have been able to watch most of the proceedings for the Queen at home

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Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:24 p.m.

Hi Sue. Yes it's that anxiety... hard to shut off... all the "what ifs?" in my over active brain. My husband gets anxious too - I can see it start in him and perhaps I feed off him as well. There is so much hassle in flying now and when I went, it seemed like (certainly at Luton) that the staff were indifferent, not particularly helpful and officious. That doesn't help. There must be some dreadful travellers/customers out there but we aren't all the same! Thank you for your reply x

Bearofliddlebrain

Sept. 15, 2022, 8:26 a.m.

Oh Liz, you’re never alone on Moodscope - all friends together trying to make our way on life’s journeys. I have always loved to travel but then have also nearly always got a big scared as the departure date loomed…am same for a day trip and partly it’s because over the years Mr. Bear has got himself into knots and gets cranky: why haven’t you packed my…whatever! Where’s my….something or other. Then one outburst was followed by a "I’ll pack my own stuff!" So I have let him do his own packing (and then it got to another stage when he’d left stuff at home and it returned to be my ‘job’!). These days he puts everything he wants to take to one side and I pack it as carefully as I can, but if it’s a weekend-type trip he does his own. The preparation is part of my difficulty….getting the doggits stuff ready to take or getting them ready for kennels (hate that but needs must..) Getting the house tidy, cleaned, bedding changed and he always asks why I’m bothering….it’s simple - there will be enough washing to do when we get back and I would like to have a tidy and clean house to come home to so I don’t have to walk in and face stuff. The airports make me anxious a little - just going through customs, I worry that I’m going to be stopped and I haven’t done anything wrong!! Have had to be ‘searched’ because the metal in my foot set off the alarms!! In the end, I printed off a letter from my GP saying I have metalwork!! Lol! I would love to go away at the moment - fancy Pembrokeshire, Cornwall or Devon or the other end - Northumberland or Scotland….don’t mind if it’s U.K. or abroad - just get some R&R and not have to cook every night!! Bliss ;-) Hope your next trip away doesn’t fill you with the heebeejeebees! Love and Bear hugs x x x

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The Gardener

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:14 a.m.

Oh Bear, preparation. Done: car docs, visas, what sort of money, injections, clothes for Europe and the tropics, medication. If not driving yourself the trepidation if transport on time (taxi did not turn up to take son for vital train to airport for Far East, I had to race against time (got no speeding fines) to get him there. Then - always emptying the fridge! Sounds crazy, but if you have breakfast at home has to be cleared up. xx

Jul

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:36 a.m.

I'm just like you Bear in that years ago when the children were small, I never used to tidy up before we went away and came home to the chaotic state we'd left it in. Eventually it dawned on me I should tidy and clean the house before we left. After that arriving home was 100 times better for me (and everyone else). Jul xx

Dragonfly

Sept. 15, 2022, 1:05 p.m.

Jul, I did used to tidy up before our hols, years ago, when the children were small; possibly quite overdoing it and wearing myself out in the process! I settle with a quick whip round these days :) x

Lexi

Sept. 15, 2022, 1:55 p.m.

Bear and Jul, I absolutely have to clean the house, make the beds, run the dishwasher, empty the fridge, take out the garbage, put away the laundry, etc etc before I go on a trip. I can't go otherwise! xo

Bearofliddlebrain

Sept. 15, 2022, 4:29 p.m.

TG, Jul, Dragonfly and Lexi - Always tidying up and handing out unused foodstuffs to neighbours - hate coming back to a messy house, a smelly bin, dirty loos - so everything gets done, bed is fresh for us and I can get the holiday washing done and not have to worry! Agree - it’s 100% better to come home to! Bear xx

Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:31 p.m.

Hi Bear, I let my husband do his own packing. If it goes wrong he's to blame!! We can't put our dog in the kennels so he goes with us. If we go elsewhere where we can't take him, someone comes to stay at our house so he can be settled (kind of) while we are away. His old family rehomed him and he was in a kennel for a week and I know that would have just maxxed out his stress. It couldn't be helped and we couldn't get him any sooner. So I can't have that option but understand totally if it works for other people. I have much admiration for your tidying up the house before, I would never think of doing that as it would add more to my brain but good for you in doing so. Must make coming in far easier than coming into a tip with more stuff in tow! We actually got away for 5 days to Northumberland and it was lovely. It's made me realise that I can do it again. Thanks for your reply and beary hugs to you xx

Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:33 p.m.

The laugh is that for my second job, I'm a cleaner. I'm not saying for a minute I have the dirtiest house but I just clean as and when. Upstairs is a bit of a midden which will be sorted. Perhaps I'm just lazy!!

Oli

Sept. 15, 2022, 8:37 a.m.

You’ve given me some thoughts Liz because I share some of the anxieties you mention. I realise that for me the procedural stuff is important: I experience a lot of stress with timetables so therefore the easiest way to eliminate it is to be punctual and in my case, early. I’m way less bothered about waiting two hours in advance than having the feelings that go with the thought of being late. I would have left the friend and chirpy, upbeat passenger and sorted my own way to the airport because I would not have enjoyed their company in those circumstances. I have a strong preference for self-catering although I acknowledge that I’ve usually really enjoyed it when forced to be with others. I clearly like both options and would do well to remember this. I’m off to the US in a few months and I’ll be going with someone. She’s a much more experienced traveller than me and I hope to learn a thing or two. I think what I’ve realised from your blog is that if I plan to minimise the procedural distress – the simple hassles that inevitably accompany travel – then I might actually enjoy the existential experience of being abroad better. Thanks for the blog.

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The Gardener

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:19 a.m.

Oli, 'being punctual'. My b-in-law was a scientist, important engagements round the world. He was an AWFUL traveller, you'd think after years you'd get inured to it. He allowed for every eventuality (don't I know it, got involved several times). He would arrive two hours before actual arrival time, then hated waiting and proceeded to moan about waste of time! He suffered IBS and insomnia before travel. I called him a worry-guts, he claimed risk assessment!

Oli

Sept. 15, 2022, 11:19 a.m.

Haha, the trick is not to dislike the wait but appreciate the benefit it brings by way of reduced stress :) xx

Lexi

Sept. 15, 2022, 1:56 p.m.

Oli, if you're in the Chicago area I'd love to say hello!

Oli

Sept. 15, 2022, 3:17 p.m.

Lexi, I'd *love* that too! I'm going to be with my son for a week or more, technically he's in PA however... here's a pic of him with his um, "company car" and I soooo want to ride around the States in this thing! So I know I'll be doing a road trip with him for a few days. If it's do-able, we'll do it! https://i.imgur.com/CPSgU33.jpg

Lexi

Sept. 15, 2022, 3:55 p.m.

Love it Oli!! A long time ago I wanted to be a truck driver. I even had a CB radio as a kid! My dad would let me use it in the car on long trips. :) I'll email you my # in case we can make it happen!

Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:39 p.m.

Hi Oli. Yes I have to be punctual. I used to have a problem with being late, like I'd put obstacles in my way to actually justify that I was always late, because I'd leave it to the last minute. That was probably more socially than anything. These days I hate being late. When I was being driven to the airport by my friend, I was really distressed as I thought I would miss my flight but having to mask it. Being in the funeral industry always makes you get there half an hour early so it's good training for other areas of one's life. I wanted to also let you know that (so far) the cutting down drinking is going really well. One week in and I appear to have kicked the wine habit. I plan to just have some at Christmas and birthday only. Not off the alcohol but majorly reduced. I'm proud of myself :0). Am sure you will have a great experience on your US travels, especially if your companion is a seasoned traveller. Have a great time x

Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:42 p.m.

And I took a look at the picture. What a vehicle! I'd love to have a wee drive of that.

Hilary

Sept. 15, 2022, 8:49 a.m.

Your remarks resonated deeply with me. I have the problem of leaving my "comfort zone" even though in past years I have travelled at home and abroad on my own I now tend to overthink everything so much so, that it is now 12 years since I last had a holiday! I had my 70th birthday last week. Had promised myself a holiday this year, but so far have not managed to go. Have booked several times but just ended up wasting money. I would love to go back to Tunisia, which I used to call my second home! Do you think there is still hope?

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The Gardener

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:23 a.m.

Hilary, go for it, I am trying to claim age, 87, for not doing things. Two visits UK and one to Germany this year. When I try poor old lady act get laughed at. French friend, only 75, guide in India told me about a lady of 101 years who renewed her passport in case she wanted to go away again! With me, every decade has brought something new, where better to start than at 70? I hated Tunisia, but we were on an awful package in an awful hotel.

Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:46 p.m.

Hi Hilary. 12 years is quite a while but never say never. You can do it. Of course there is still hope. I find that sometimes smaller steps to a goal are achievable in reaching its end. Like - why you want to go... so many reasons I imagine. I used to put lack of money as a reason but I never saved up. Sometimes visualisation is a huge thing... imagine yourself back in Tunisia. Take a map out or look at a map of it... retrace your steps or have a virtual tour online and see where you might go next in the country. Imagine your face instead of the person who is looking at you... at the restaurant, or on the boat or wherever. Make it happen to go back to your second home and make some magical memories. I challenge you to write a blog about planning your holiay or better still, write it after you have gone and tell us what has changed since you last were there. I'd love to read it. x

Leah

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:21 a.m.

Liz 3 words distance time money, as I live so far from everywhere and am getting old for 20 hr flights. So like you am conflicted. Would like to visit people overseas again but it feels So stressful.

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The Gardener

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:41 a.m.

Leah, we have friends in Adelaide. We met them in Australia, UK, France and Holland. Before ill-health struck us all our idea was to meet up in Malaysia, reasonably priced, 11 hour flight for us, 9 for them. Have you no friends you could do that with? I know it would not suit you financially or socially, but I'd love to meet friends at a Club Med - met grand-children in Thailand, us from India, them from Australia. Must not get morbid, enjoy the memories. xx

Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:50 p.m.

Hi Leah. I have yet to be on a 20 hour flight! I pretty much know my husband couldn't stand it. We have one friend who lives in the US and we'd love to see her, but I would also want to take my stepdaughter too, make it a family affair... but then leaving the dog. He is a consideration for sure. If you ever fancy a humongous trip to the Highlands of Scotland, come and stay with us! x

The Gardener

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:34 a.m.

Liz, the French say 'Travel keeps you young'. Oh yeah? Might be true. Mr G was a nervous traveller, Indian travel was nearly always traumatic, yet he loved the place! I have a 'system'. I always travel in smart (but practical) clothes, so start 'feeling good'. Never 'lose it' with airport staff, most of them doing their best - lose your 'sang froid' and stress takes its place. When we had no money and lots of children we drove through the night (in winter) to Italy. Pre common market for UK so border controls. All the kids learned basic greetings in whatever country we were entering. The youngest would not travel without Basil Brush. She made him his own passport, which she presented to customs officials/police. Her siblings were embarrassed. but it always elicited silly grins and the passport stamped. I know she still has Basil, don't know about the passport.

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Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:52 p.m.

Hi Gardener, I have to say I am pretty cool with airport things, despite being stressed I'd have to be mega p'd off to get angry with the staff. They have enough **** to deal with. And yes to comfortable stuff to wear. Aww Basil Brush. How cute. I had my leopard, Spotty, and the one time we didn't bring him, the car broke down so we fixed it, drove back and got him and then went on holiday to Spain! The car had no more issues. He was the lucky talisman bless him x

Orangeblossom

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:38 a.m.

Thanks for the blog. Last time I flew was 4 years ago to Madeira which my OH booked to celebrate surviving 40 years with me. The holiday whizz passed & was delightful experience. In the April in that same year I flew to Miami Florida where my Mum lived. That was the last time that I saw her as Covid came & we couldn’t attend her 90th birthday Celebrations. Haven’t flown since then. Haven’t gone away since early April. I have mixed feelings about flying & long car journeys stress me out as I don’t travel well.

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Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:55 p.m.

Hi Orangeblossom. I thought I was unusual in not having flown for quite a while. 2017 to Greece. The previous holidays to Germany were by car (and Eurostar) and this year's flight was to England. I can't stand the huge amounts of people in airports, that does my head in! As for a long car journey, got used to that over the years going from England to Arran or Cambridge to Devon... always long and boring journeys where I'd go to sleep in the back of the car - or attempt to!

Lexi

Sept. 15, 2022, 2:01 p.m.

Great blog Liz. I like you enjoy the comforts of home. I cannot remember the last time I went somewhere on vacation and enjoyed it. I don't know why. It's not that I haven't been to nice places. But I just like sleeping in my own bed. I don't like hotels, b&bs, airbnbs, any of it - I don't like places where so many strangers have been before. It's probably some OCD on my part. I hate flying. But I do love driving. I don't know when I'll travel again. Perhaps I'll take a page out of Teg's book and explore my local surroundings? xo

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Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 9:57 p.m.

Hi Lexi. I love my own bed... and my own toilet... and my she shed... and my sofa... and the way I make my tea... the list is endless. A train journey would be the best choice for me if it wasn't so expensive. I definitely like to explore but we are quite spoilt up here as it's a place where people come to holiday themselves. x

Another Sally

Sept. 15, 2022, 3:25 p.m.

I used to quite like flying, but as someone above said, the awful pathway through duty free and perfume departments is anathema to me. I now have a problem with flying from Gatwick because I have had about 4 traumatic departures from there to children in crisis abroad. I get a sort of ptsd panic feeling. Going on a ferry tomorrow - just hope no french strikes. Haven’t been to France for 5 years and have missed it. When going in the car my OH drives and I read the paper or sleep. Get there quicker with your eyes closed! Waves to all. AS xx

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Jul

Sept. 15, 2022, 4:16 p.m.

Hi AS We're going on a ferry to France tomorrow too from Folkestone to Calais. Then we're driving onwards to Spain. I love France. Have a great time there. Jul xx

Bearofliddlebrain

Sept. 15, 2022, 4:32 p.m.

Have a wonderful break AS, you deserve it - Jul I do hope you travel well and enjoy your own break x x x

Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 10:03 p.m.

Hi Another Sally. It's just commercial overload isn't it? I hope your journey is straightforward and without any stress xx and likewise Jul xx

Valerie

Sept. 15, 2022, 4:43 p.m.

We have not been away overnight for more than a decade. We don't adopt the kind of dogs that non-experienced house sitters can cope with,and I hate to put them into boarding kennels.I dreaded the phone ringing with bad news when we were away. I can never sleep on a plane,and don't sleep the night before,so arrive exhausted.The worry about the travel timings,the indecision over packing,the pile of laundry and post to deal with on return,all take the shine off.I did love exploring new countries once I was there,but for now I am happy with trips out for a day. I am also very home- loving,and I don't really feel we are missing out.We save a lot of money too,which pays for other treats and helping good causes dear to our hearts.You are not alone Liz. *** Joke-" I just got back from the holiday of a lifetime. Never again"

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Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 10:05 p.m.

Hi Valerie. I totally get you with the kennels, that's why we can't do it with our dog. I never sleep when I'm away full stop, or if I do, it is fitful and I am not rested. The only thing that perks me up after a rubbish sleep is a face full of shower! I think if you are content with where you are, then you are already literally "home", where your heart is xx

Dragonfly

Sept. 15, 2022, 5:26 p.m.

Hi Liz, all my family have travelled extensively, with me the one being sent the postcards - back in the day - now it tends to be a more instant Whatsapp photo. And I've often felt quite envious, thinking of all the beautiful places in the world I may never now visit. Financial constraints, especially when the children were younger have been the main barrier to travel, but it doesn't help that I'm terrified of flying. Or that on the alternative of a cruise in recent years, I suffered a bereavement - and had to fly home! As I had to on a foreign holiday a few years previously. I'd love to do the Inca trail, but oh dear, that's all a bit high and I'm not good at heights these days either. Of course there are some stunning places to visit in the UK, and we've visited a few, but not nearly enough. So, you're certainly not alone in your thoughts about travel; it's something I feel very wistful about. I did smile about you wearing 2 dresses to the airport :)

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Liz

Sept. 15, 2022, 10:09 p.m.

Hi Dragonfly. My brother once said rather boastfully "we are running out of places to visit"... I did think of compiling a list of where he hadn't been as it was a bit of a "one over on you" which I'm used to. It's a yawn now really. I am p'd off with myself though as I had a chance to go to Australia but didn't really have enough money put by. That was when I was 30. I should have just maxxed a credit card really and then enjoyed the experience, paid for it later! I was also not feeling terribly brave. Yes it was funny about the 2 dresses but with a coat on and clumpy boots, after walking very quickly, I had a **** of a sweat on!! x

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