In the moment

18 Aug 2022
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I am sitting at my computer staring at the blank screen. I am feeling tired and have a list of possible blog topics and only a little time in which to write. I have a thousand thoughts in my head as I look at a possible subject then reject it.

People say we should be in the moment, stop worrying about the past, the future, what may or may not happen and just focus.

I focus on the blank screen as my mind becomes blanker by the minute. I look at the keyboard with shiny silver keys and all the capital letters displayed. The more I stare at the letters I wonder how so many words can be made with just twenty-six letters. I am so in awe of theses amazing letters.

Then I stopped focussing and realised I needed to write my blog.

Much has been written about being in the moment but what does it mean to you? Would you share a moment now by leaving your device and just be in the moment and then write about what you noticed, how did you feel? Was it hard or easy?

Or maybe you could share a recent example of being in the moment. Moodscopers come from a variety of backgrounds and live different lives so an insight into how a Moodscoper experiences being in the moment would help me.

 

Maybe you are someone like me who finds it hard to be in the moment or do you decide it does not help you at all?

Leah

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Arthur

Aug. 19, 2022, 6:25 a.m.

Hello Leah, thanks for sharing your view. I commented on some things. Feel free to ask me anything. "Much has been written about being in the moment but what does it mean to you? Would you share a moment now by leaving your device and just be in the moment and then write about what you noticed, how did you feel? Was it hard or easy?" It's easy for me to be in the moment. I struggle on the other end, namely taking action, decision making and getting things done. But I feel being in the moment helps as soon as I start doing because then my focus is strong and the quality of the doing will be good. At some point I will also get it done, hopefully. I suggest an experiment. Ask yourself the question: Where were you while writing this blog? Was it in the present moment or somewhere else? For sure you have been in the present moment because you always are. Still probably what you mean by not being in the moment means your attention is mainly on your thoughts rather than your body or sense perceptions. "Or maybe you could share a recent example of being in the moment. Moodscopers come from a variety of backgrounds and live different lives so an insight into how a Moodscoper experiences being in the moment would help me." I'm a musician and being in the moment is crucial to do my craft. It's part of my life philosophy and I try to pursue it on a daily basis. It relieves stress. I'm more open. It's not only easy all the time but that's life. So as an example I like to take my guitar, feel it, do some basic movements and focus on my body. This practise achieves to gradually make a mental note for myself that playing guitar is connected with deep listening and feeling my body. This helps me staying grounded when working with others or being on stage. Other activities in which I practise that are playing soccer, making music, automatic writing. Also meditation helps a lot. In fact, it is merely about noticing what happens in the now. "Maybe you are someone like me who finds it hard to be in the moment or do you decide it does not help you at all?" My life is a lot about being in the moment. I hope my view can inspire you and other Moodscopers.

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Oli

Aug. 19, 2022, 6:36 a.m.

Funny you should mention guitar Arthur. I was doing some practice last night and lost myself in the work/playing. Just 8 bars, over and over. Half an hour went by without awareness at the time. Being onstage is different though: I'm usually focusing on avoiding where the singer is waving that bl**dy tambourine about!

Teg

Aug. 19, 2022, 6:43 a.m.

Hi Arthur So well expressed and helpful. Txx

The Gardener

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:31 a.m.

Thanks Arthur, most helpful. Gardening is my great saviour. For stress relief nothing beats being by water. Last week I was in a hotel which was once 'The Pack Horse' so right on Thames. Despite the vicissitudes of the week I could look at the water - swans helped - and feel the water wash the stress away.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:34 a.m.

Arthur Welcome and thanks for your thoughtful and helpful reply.. You make a compelling case for being in the moment . When I wrote the blog I kept on worrying that I should be writing another topic..I was in the moment fir the actual writing but I kept stopping and doing other things but that’s how I do most tasks. I have a very low concentration skill.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:38 a.m.

Oli I found your difference between how you practice the guitar as opposed to when you are actually playing. I am the opposite with public speaking. When I practice before hand I an thinking about how bad my speech is but when I deliver it I am in the moment and focussed. Then I don’t have any tambourine players !,,

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:40 a.m.

Teg I agree . Arthur’s comment was a very worthwhile blog that I wished I had written it,!!

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:41 a.m.

TG I find gardening stressful but I am glad you can be in the moment and focus on your lovely garden.

Arthur

Aug. 19, 2022, 11:28 a.m.

Leah I think it's great you acknowledge your switch of concentration. It seems that you can perceive whether you're concentrating on writing, worrying or something else. Imo there is no need to fully concentrate on one thing for a long time. If you want to train your concentration though, there are many opportunities. Feel free :)

Arthur

Aug. 19, 2022, 11:28 a.m.

Leah I think it's great you acknowledge your switch of concentration. It seems that you can perceive whether you're concentrating on writing, worrying or something else. Imo there is no need to fully concentrate on one thing for a long time. If you want to train your concentration though, there are many opportunities. Feel free :)

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:06 p.m.

Thanks Arthur, for your reply. I think Acknowledging is one thing and changing is another..

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:08 p.m.

Arthur, I think training my concentration at my age is probably not going to happen. I have been told and have noticed I have some traits of ADHD.

Bearofliddlebrain

Aug. 19, 2022, 6:32 a.m.

Hi Leah, I can quite easily understand the difficulty of ‘being in the moment’! The minute our yoga teacher says to relax and allow the thoughts to come, acknowledge them and let them go and be in the moment, my mind takes ages as it races through ‘stuff’! I do finally concentrate on my breathing and relax and I can actually notice any pain I’m in on the in-breath and let it release on the out-breath and the muscles loosen a little each time. The other times I am totally ‘in the moment’ is river, lake or sea swimming: currently it’s wonderful feeling the cool water on my skin; noticing the flow, the plants, the wildlife all around and enjoying the sunshine on my face. Feeling the joy of it all - and even if it’s freezing, feeling the anticipation of the icy water, then the exhilaration of each limb getting deeper into the chilly water, then finally plucking up the courage to get right in and letting out the screams and laughter as the water reaches over the shoulders and I’m off! Might not be for long in the coldest months, but it’s enough to feel alive….and there’s a flask of hot tea and a snack afterwards to warm me from within and a glow from my face that radiates. I’m missing the water as we speak - must go soon! It is hard to write a blog each week, Leah but you’ve accomplished the task once again - another goodie, thank you ;-)* Love and Bear hugs x x x

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Teg

Aug. 19, 2022, 6:46 a.m.

Morning Mrs Bear I knew your example would your swimming in the water! I haven't seen any bears in our local waterways yet. Now that would be a moment! Txx

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:44 a.m.

Bear When I did yoga T school as soon as the teacher mentioned running water all I could think of was going to the bathroom. I like floating. I am glad water helps you too.m

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:46 a.m.

Teg we dont have bears here except for teddy bears.

Bearofliddlebrain

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:23 p.m.

Teg and Leah - I currently look like an over-stuffed teddy bear - need to swim faster to get in shape! Ha ha ha ho hum! xx

Leah

Aug. 20, 2022, 10:11 a.m.

I love teddy bears and tgey can never be over stuffed. Bear yiu are lovely as you are

Teg

Aug. 19, 2022, 6:41 a.m.

Hi Leah You highlight another interesting subject, thank you. The word that has been very popular in recent times is "Mindfulness". Being aware and living in and for the moment. Getting the full appreciation of where you are and what you are feeling. Obviously your blank screen and still keyboard changed as your thoughts processes became alive and you began to write this Post. Like most writers you were waiting for inspiration and it eventually arrived. May I make a suggestion? At random times during any day your Mind will produce ideas for future Posts (without any conscious effort from your self). As soon as this happens record that thought. Either by writing it in a notebook or saving it on the computer. When it is time to write your weekly Post read these notes. You ask about "being in the moment". I am now. It is early morning, the air is cool and still. The house is quiet as I am the only one out of bed. The only sound in my "office" is the regular tap of fingers on keyboard letters. It is calming and therapeutic. Hopefully later in the day I will realise I have another such moment and I will appreciate it. Txx

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The Gardener

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:37 a.m.

Good morning Teg. I was always hopeless at relaxing, then during lock-down the most important course on-line was 'Mindfulness'. I was struggling with my son's death, ~GP here suggested acupuncture, had 3 sessions. Don't know what helped, but my journey home was stressful and some panicky moments. I stopped, took stock, made sure I was going in the right direction, got help wherever I could, and got home. xx

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:49 a.m.

Teg Thanks for your reply. As I wrote I have pages of ideas for my blogs which I write down in my exercise book, but my trouble is choosing one and stay focussed.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:52 a.m.

TG I think grief hast to take its own course and no amount of acupuncture or courses will help. I think the journey ho e is a great metaphor for grief.

Sally

Aug. 19, 2022, 7:05 a.m.

Hi Leah. Personally I like a definition to go with my word . Something like Mindfulness is way too “airy- fairy” for me, and indeed, the expression “in the moment” too. I like more instructions, small steps, to see the reasoning behind. So: from my philistine perspective then, an entreaty to be in the moment is no good . An example that WOULD however help me would be : “concentrate on what you’re doing “ ( and don’t be distracted), or “ focus on that flower”, ( see the petal formation) when I’m painting. However, if I’m painting an abstract , it is as for Oli and the guitar, the creative mind takes over and I just go with the flow. I can lose myself in both forms of painting. So I suppose there, I am “in the moment “. But I dislike making it into a LABEL , a cult of Mindfulness, and in some way, it reminds me of that other saying, reinventing the wheel. Each of us can be distracted, concentrate, focus…..why not use better descriptive language rather than vacuous terms that have sprung up seemingly overnight? Confused person signing off here…

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Oli

Aug. 19, 2022, 7:31 a.m.

Hi Sally, the "airy-fairy" of Mindfulness is something I hear a LOT when I introduce this stuff to people. Mindfulness has a difficult image; hypnosis even worse. Mindfulness is now packaged as a commodity as well as having self-appointed gurus which I'm also cynical about. BUT... I look at it like this: mindfulness is a skill. It's not an easy skill to master either -- which is why it's a skill that often needs to be taught even though it's you who end up doing it. We don't question this when it comes to learning to drive a car -- we go to an instructor. But even there we need a good one, or one who's a good fit for us. I've learned something of the skill -- no point in false modesty -- and the language I conceptualise it in is scientific, hard, concrete and determinate. My ex-gf was also skilled but she was everything I'm not so for her the skill helped her connect spiritually to some feelings she felt were important. Some people learn better my way; others, her way.

Sally

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:20 a.m.

Thanks Oli, for taking the time and trouble to answer . My need to connect to something tangible influences my judgment of this word. If you of all people think there’s something in it, a skill to be taught, then I will most definitely have a closer look at the whole subject. As it happens, I am not anti hypnosis and have had a little experience of this. It’s just that the concept of Mindfulness at present escapes me. It’s the word itself, Oli , which fails to have a draw me in. Mea culpa probably.

The Gardener

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:42 a.m.

Oli, you are right, it is a skill - sure many ways you use that skill. I do use the word 'aware' along with Mindfulness. For me it is not battling on regardless, but stop, 2, 5 minutes, 're-group', clear your mind of junk, panic. Without taking those moments of calm (and they were moments) I think I would have given way to total panic during the awful journey back.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:57 a.m.

Sally I agree with you. In my parents day there was no mindfulness because people did not tend to to multi task so they focussed on one task.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:59 a.m.

Oli I see mindfulness as a word that like Sally wrote has achieved cult status with so many books written and workshops.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:59 a.m.

Oli I see mindfulness as a word that like Sally wrote has achieved cult status with so many books written and workshops.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 9:01 a.m.

Sally I like the way you need something tangible to focus on as I agree with that too.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 9:04 a.m.

TG thanks for your comment, I think skill is a good word. I think stopping for 2 to 5 minutes and getting calm c@n work but sometimes the thoughts run in my mind too much got calm.

The Gardener

Aug. 19, 2022, 9:43 a.m.

Leah, the word 'mindfulness' may be a cult, but nothing new. Davies poem 'What is this life, if full of care, we have no time to stand and stare'. It means stopping, particularly multi-tasking which I think is crazy but makes people feel 'busy'. Cynic in me says nobody can give full attention to more than one thing at a time. I //////AM going to listen to music while I knit, neither need 100% attention (Oli might disagree)

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 9:50 a.m.

TG I can do 5 things at once but I do them all poorly.m

Oli

Aug. 19, 2022, 7:13 a.m.

Thanks for the blog Leah. People do indeed say we "should" be in the moment however for me, that's bananas. Other animals have to spend nearly all their time in the present whereas humans don't do that. Because it's useful to be able to plan and it's useful to remember the past. We've got this thing called language which allows us to do remembering and predicting pretty well. We can have problems when we ensnare ourselves in words and thinking though. Which is why it's good to know how we think. I like knowing when it's useful to be in the present moment and when it's not. When I'm caught up in uncomfortable thoughts about someone or something then it's really useful to know *what* I'm doing there: I've become ensnared. It's something I do, not much different to hammering a nail. What took me a while to learn is that *thinking* is a behaviour which is not much different to hammering. But you don't "see" that when your thinking is invisible. You have to watch how you actually *do* thinking. For me Leah I didn't really understand or see this stuff till I came across a good teacher. (The "good" teacher was really the one who helped me see it; the others may have been good too but I wasn't ready.) So I saw you say that you find it hard to be in the present moment and wonder if it helps at all: My experience is that it is immensely useful to be able to immerse myself in the present when I want to and to be able to take a different perspective when *that's* useful.

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Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 9:07 a.m.

Oli Thanks for your explanation and easy to read writing style. I am glad being the moment has helped you. I have a question when the moment is over,what happens then ..?

Oli

Aug. 19, 2022, 1:55 p.m.

Good question! The way it works for me is I have a formal meditation practice which works just like guitar practice: i.e. with both practices I go over the skills. When I put the guitar down I don't stop being a guitarist -- I still have the ability to play even when I'm not playing. It's the same with meditation. When you stop meditating you don't stop being someone who knows how thinking works. Sure, when you stop the formal practice you relax the focus on present-moment-awareness but you don't lose the skill or your sense of it being there; you just relax the focus. You'll sense it too with other experiences of becoming absorbed -- like I was this morning working with a client: totally focused on her and having a sense that this was happening. And on a practical level you'll find yourself *many* times a day having a heightened awareness of the present-moment and the realisation that this is what's happening. Useful? Yes, very. Like, when I'm tired I get caught up in my thinking and can't always spot that I've got stuck.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:11 p.m.

Oli, thanks. You have explained that well.

Dieter

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:32 a.m.

I am sitting in the pedestrian zone of a small German town and thinking about what it means to be in the here and now. First of all, pay attention to the body and sensory perceptions. Breathe deeply, feel the air, listen. And look at the people over a coffee. Wondering what's out there and not thinking too much. Be in contact with the world. Just now, a tall, very obese man walks by wearing a T-shirt with Mozart and Salieri printed on it. A delightful combination. But there are also some unpleasant thoughts that are annoying and can't be switched off. Couldn't I spend the time more effectively? Don't I still have a lot to do? But first a sip of coffee... thanks for the blog! It inspired me to write my first comment! Very nice. Dieter

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The Gardener

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:47 a.m.

Hello Dieter, welcome aboard. Did a lot of people watching travelling between France and UK last week. In May I was in Wassenberg - lovely town, lovely people - lovely journey from Western France. They have a superbly preserved forest - each tree was an artistic masterpiece in itself. Could stare at shape of tree, sunshine filtering through leaves - and the bark - looks like beautiful material designe, all different.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 9:09 a.m.

Dieter Welcome and thanks for writing your first comment. I felt I was there with you in the German town .

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 9:10 a.m.

TG Thanks fi4 your comment. I l8ke your details as you are very observant.

Arthur

Aug. 19, 2022, 11:15 a.m.

Leah, Dieter It felt similar for me:) I'm very enthusiastic now seeing that people share these in-the-moment experiences.

Susannah

Aug. 19, 2022, 3:42 p.m.

Welcome Dieter

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:12 p.m.

Yes Arthur it has been interesting to read.

Bearofliddlebrain

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:33 p.m.

Welcome to the blog and for responding to Leah’s excellent blog - so many interesting comments here and good to have your perspective too - hope to see you here again soon now you have dipped your toes in! Love and Bear hugs x x x

Leah

Aug. 20, 2022, 10:14 a.m.

Bear you have a wonderful way of making everyone feel welcome too moodscope.

Susannah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:38 a.m.

Hi Leah Yesterday evening I did a cycling Time Trial - just a 5 miler. I now realise that when I am racing I am completely in the moment, always focussing on my pedal stroke, my breathing, the route, the other road users. It is completely absorbing, pushing myself to my limit, with no room to think about anything else. I was really pleased with my result - the fastest I've done at that distance since 2014 - and I'm 8 years older. I was last overall, but that doesn't worry me in the slightest. I was still the fastest woman over 50... and over 60!

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The Gardener

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:58 a.m.

Susannah, your post exhausts me - need your training programme! Another test for you. Staines UK, Waterloo, cross London to St Pancras,eurostar to Paris gare du Nord, cross Paris to Montparnasse, TGV Rennes, then 'little' train to station in Brittany. Like an obstacle race, problems at every stage of the journey - plus I'm well over 80.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 9:12 a.m.

Susannah Thanks for sharing how you focus when cycling and how you were the faster woman over 50 and 60.

Susannah

Aug. 19, 2022, 3:39 p.m.

Wow, TG. That is a tough journey. I get really stressed about crossing big cities for train connections. In fact, for our forthcoming odyssey going overland to Greece I have factored in overnight stays in both Paris and Milan to reduce the stress.

Teg

Aug. 19, 2022, 5:46 p.m.

Hi Susannah Brilliant! You are getting faster as you get older. Txx

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:16 p.m.

Susannah, TG I can relate to the stress of many changes in a long journey. However liv8ng so far away from us and Europe and most places the mere idea of any travel at the moment seems far too difficult and expensive. . I hope your trip goes well Susannah.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:20 p.m.

Oops many typos in last post, not in the moment! Should read living and UK

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:21 p.m.

Teg I agree, also more confident and faster .

Bearofliddlebrain

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:35 p.m.

Superb Susannah - you should be very proud of your achievements! Am exhausted just thinking about the first mile!!! Love and Bear hugs x x x

Leah

Aug. 20, 2022, 10:16 a.m.

Bear i am exhajsted at tbe thought if gettimg on a bike .

The Gardener

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:53 a.m.

Dear Leah, a blank screen has never bothered me! Opposite the problem, rush into print or conversation. Discipline major factor. Ideas rush in; choose one, is it interesting, pertinent, too provocative? Then expand the idea, collect and marshall thoughts and design it to fit into 500, 800 or 1000 words (usually been my disciplines. I could do 500 words on the last nutty hour - in fact I reckon on days when the blog and replies really 'get' me I probably write 500 words! Must count them one day

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Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 9:15 a.m.

TG A blank screen or a blank paper I find intimidating. Thanks for your comment. I am sure in your life time you would have you would have written well over 100,000 words.

Orangeblossom

Aug. 19, 2022, 9:27 a.m.

Hi Leah thanks for the blog! I agree with you about living in the moment. Keeping a diary helps with living ‘in the moment. However this week has become a bit misshapen & perhaps it involves accepting what I am faced with on a particular day & doing my best to negotiate what to do next within the limits of my strength & energy.

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Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 9:49 a.m.

OB Thanks for your comment I found it helpful.

Valerie

Aug. 19, 2022, 9:52 a.m.

Hello Leah, I walked away from my office,sat in the kitchen.All I could focus on was the smears on the fridge door.Stood outside,the weeds were clamouring for my attention.It's been a stressful week,but I find it increasingly hard to focus on anything.It hope it will get better when the cooler autumn days come,but this can be the precurser that depression is looming, so I may tweak my meds dosage.***

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Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 10:49 a.m.

Valerie I spend ages wondering where those smudges come from. I think they are the same gremlins who run away with odd socks and plastic lids .

The Gardener

Aug. 19, 2022, 11:04 a.m.

Leah and Valerie. When one of my sons lived in Australia they had huge fridge/freezers with stainless steel doors. Whatever you cleaned the darned things with some angle of light would find a smear.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 11:10 a.m.

TG I get finger marks before and smears after, Bring back the old white fridges. Thanks TG.

Bearofliddlebrain

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:38 p.m.

Baby oil gets rid of smears and smudges off these stainless steel doors apparently…..Bear x

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:42 p.m.

Thanks Bear, but it is not something I have in the house. Do you know someone who has tried it. ..?

Jul

Aug. 19, 2022, 10:45 a.m.

I just wanted to tell Teg I am away right now!! I do have access to Moodscope obvs but we have visitors and they need my attention :(. Speak soon. Jul xx

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Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 10:51 a.m.

Jul thanks for letting us know. I hope you enjoyed your.visitors.

Teg

Aug. 19, 2022, 5:44 p.m.

Hi Jul Thanks but you make it feel that I am your minder! Enjoy your time with the visitors. Moodscope can wait. txx

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:23 p.m.

Teg When you write minder I think of the tv program called minder with Dennis Waterman.

Tutti Frutti

Aug. 19, 2022, 7:44 p.m.

Hi Leah I find it easier to be in the moment with my eyes closed and concentrating on what I can hear and how my body feels. I kind of think of a running commentary on it. So, the house was very quiet but I could hear a motorbike pass outside, the faint sound of typing from my husband's study and a slight gurgle of my stomach. I felt my shoulders relaxing after a long and stressful day at work which was great, and my head lolling a bit. My hands were resting on my stomach and I could feel it rising and falling with my breath. Thanks for prompting me to do this it was helpful. I definitely identify with you staring at the computer by the way. I often end up doing this when trying to get down to awkward tasks or when just tired/bored. Love TF x

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Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:26 p.m.

TF Thanks for explaining how you get in the moment. It was very descriptive. Closing o e eyes when one is home but closing them when out in public and sitting down would have people coming up and tapping me and asking if I am ok.

Leah

Aug. 19, 2022, 8:35 p.m.

Thanks moodscopers for your responses and explaining what being in the moment means to you . I found the responses to be helpful. It is not too late to join in the discussion. I have another question. Being in the moment to me assumes it is a good moment, but what if it is a scary, painful, or uncomfortable moment thst you want to escape as quickly moment and not be in it at all. ? So is being in the moment only for pleasant moments, for being calm and does not apply for every moment?

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Teg

Aug. 20, 2022, 7:10 a.m.

Hi Leah You are quite right. Every moment is not pleasant and calm. BUT we always know the bad moments will pass and other good moments will arrive. As sure as day follows night. Txx

Leah

Aug. 20, 2022, 7:22 a.m.

Teg, I want to get out of the painful moments and not focus on them but that is hard,

Oli

Aug. 20, 2022, 7:38 a.m.

I've just seen your question Leah: The skill of learning to be in the moment is *especially useful* for experiencing the unpleasant moments! This is probably worth a blog in itself. That thing we do of wanting to avoid unpleasant experiences drives a lot of MH problems which are based in patterns of thinking (rather than say, chemicals). We can easily get into patterns of really unhelpful behaviour by spending our efforts on *avoiding* the unpleasant stuff which our mind lays on us. You end up with two problems: (1) the unpleasant stuff; (2) the anxiety of needing to get away from the unpleasant stuff. For me, I didn't make any progress with my MH till I learned to experience the unpleasant stuff and *stop* trying to avoid it. Like I say, probably an entire blog in itself. xx

Leah

Aug. 20, 2022, 10:24 a.m.

Oli I have sratef writing znoutvthe pdinful moments znd how i hzve been zvoifingvthe moment when i first saw the ashes of what was oncre my home and shop. Amuway i msube inspired to finish that blog evrn if it is painful. Thanks fot the encouragement.

Leah

Aug. 20, 2022, 10:30 a.m.

Oops trying to type on the phonre makes more typos because I have fat fingers. Dorry. The first-line should read I I have started writing about the painful moments and now I've been avoiding the moment when I first saw the ashes of what was once my home and shop some 2 1/2 years ago. Anyway early I think you have inspired me to finish that blog and two stop avoiding the very painful moments.

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